Re: If you had it to do all over again...
If we had never had our son, I'd have to say no.
But because we do have our son, in spite of the divorce I've been going through and everything that led up to it, yes, I would do it all again. I'd try to do it better than I did on my end, and knowing from the beginning I had a narcissist on my hands might have given me some advantages - mainly just knowing the precise moment he started detaching from me, so I could go through the process with him instead of alone after he was already gone.
I just saw your other post, BEB. If you don't feel emotionally connected or in love with your fiancé any longer, do both of yourselves a favor and end it now.