Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Away and beyond in a hot place
Re: Men in successful marriages, what do you do when the wife is disrespectful?
IMO it would be very hard to respect a man like you! You sound so full of yourself and hardly the kind of man that deserves respect with your overbearing attitude. based on some of the stuff you have written here I am surprised your wife hasn't taken a base ball bat to the side of your head and I am not by nature a violent person!
There is obviously no love lost in your marriage and you appear to always want to be right or in the "Lording it over" position.
You have threatened divorce so many times - that's a way to build a marriage NOT. The D word should never come from your lips, talk about making your wife feel insecure and just after she had a baby, you are a right piece of work.
Bullying your wife to show you are the one with power - another great way to build a marriage, NOT. You are probably the type you lies around the house when she is flat out with housework, baby and all but give yourself praise because you did a bit more than your buddies did, wow bully for you.
You told her you don't need intimacy - maybe she does, why don't you kick her when she is down some more. Have you stopped to think how she feels about that. Remember intimacy is not just intercourse, it's also holding hands, hugs, affection etc, she probably needs that more than ever, home with a young kid. You know it is not ALL about you!
Yeah, treating your wife the same way as you would treat one of your employees, that is surely a huge red flag, you don't have a clue about what a marriage is.
Your wife has just had a baby and you are not "caring' for her, your pride obviously is more important to your 'cause you the man, you must stand your ground' - hope that works for you
Has it crossed your mind at all that you have contributed to the negative sentiment in your marriage at all, but I guess its ALL your wife's fault. You say you desperately want your marriage to work but it's all about you. Think about it from her point of view.
Incidentally as you have so many people working for you, you ought to know that RESPECT IS EARNED NOT DEMANDED, and you are being demanding. Women do not respond well to bully boy tactics hence the negativity and tantrums. Good luck with that!