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post #16 of 47 (permalink) Old 10-12-2015, 07:48 PM
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Forgive me but the LAST thing we need, as a TAM community and as a global community is segregation. We should be seeking our commonalities and not dividing ourselves by our differences.

And @Fozzy, again meh. Knowing how a man approaches interpersonal problems ...that's grabbing his crotch and spitting, right....doesn't change whether he is gay or straight.


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Forgive me but the LAST thing we need, as a TAM community and as a global community is segregation. We should be seeking our commonalities and not dividing ourselves by our differences.

And @Fozzy, again meh. Knowing how a man approaches interpersonal problems ...that's grabbing his crotch and spitting, right....doesn't change whether he is gay or straight.

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Agreed. I have no advice, but I still think they should be welcomed here if this is an all-inclusive and non-religious forum. I won't contribute because I have no experience, but we are in 2015 so I think there is a place for that here.
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Agreed. I have no advice, but I still think they should be welcomed here if this is an all-inclusive and non-religious forum. I won't contribute because I have no experience, but we are in 2015 so I think there is a place for that here.
STR - I have been married for nearly 40 years to the same wonderful woman. I have no personal experience with divorce or separation. Nevertheless, I would not hesitate to offer advice to anyone experiencing those things.

Straight, gay, bi.... We are all fallen human beings redeemed by grace and grace alone.

My advice would be the same for anyone.
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Forgive me but the LAST thing we need, as a TAM community and as a global community is segregation. We should be seeking our commonalities and not dividing ourselves by our differences.

And @Fozzy, again meh. Knowing how a man approaches interpersonal problems ...that's grabbing his crotch and spitting, right....doesn't change whether he is gay or straight.
No, you're correct, but I think the dynamic changes when you're talking about how two men relate to each other vs how a man and a woman relate to each other. You might not give the same advice to a man on how to woo another man as you would to a man trying to woo a woman, for instance.

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I'll give a hypothetical situation to illustrate my point.

If a lesbian couple come on seeking help for the proverbial bed death situation, it would probably not be as helpful to recommend one of them reads MMSLP and try to emulate a redpill guy. Much of the standard go-to advice that's dispensed here goes out the window--the guy should take ownership of the relationship, etc. Which guy takes ownership when there are two? What happens when there isn't a guy?

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I'll give a hypothetical situation to illustrate my point.

If a lesbian couple come on seeking help for the proverbial bed death situation, it would probably not be as helpful to recommend one of them reads MMSLP and try to emulate a redpill guy.
Right you are. So right in fact it is never a good idea to suggest MMSLP or red pill crap. But Lesbian bed death is rather widely known among lesbians and finding appropriate suggestions isn't too difficult. The overlap between a lesbian couple and a hetero couple is that the sexless ness is clearly affecting one partner more than the other, as such learning to better communicate applies to both couples.


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Much of the standard go-to advice that's dispensed here goes out the window--the guy should take ownership of the relationship, etc. Which guy takes ownership when there are two? What happens when there isn't a guy?
I think @jld will have to come up with a new way of looking at relationships! Having said that, I believe there are more homosexual couples involved in the kink community than hetero, proportionally speaking. Since they've had to come to terms with their nonheteronormative sexuality, embracing their kink is that much easier!

Okay I admit I just wanted to use "nonheteronormative" in a sentence!

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@Anon Pink Yes, it would be the dominant partner in the homosexual couple who would play what I normally think of as the male role, basically taking responsibility for the relationship.

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I don't think there needs to be any differentiation at all. Sex is sex between two people. LD/HD dynamics don't receive different responses based on where genitals are placed. Being considerate of one person will/won't do doesn't differ with what type of genitals people have. Even family dynamics: in-laws' lack of acceptance can happen with different genders, religions, ethnicities and sociology-economic backgrounds just as easily, and the advice is the same.

Lets stop worrying so much about our differences as humans and focus on our similarities. That is the way to foster acceptance and peace where at all possible.

ETA: I see Anon and Fozzy beat me to it! GMTA!

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I wish them the best, but I'm a traditionalist. You know, man & woman, husband & wife, sex only with each other, till death do you part, basically all of the things that people don't give a crap about anymore. lol

I know a gay couple (two men) and I have nothing against them. They actually get a long better than most couples I know.

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I have no problem welcoming anyone here... married, singles in LTR, gay, hetero, whatever.

I probably can't relate to certain issues (since I am not gay/lesbian) but certain problems in marriage are universal, regardless of sexual preference. And when it comes to THOSE issues, I can certainly offer advice.

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Would a seperate forum for same sex marriages be discriminating?
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I would not contribute to same-sex posts. I actually think like the idea of open marriages, same-sex marriages would be blasted. It's an ethical issue and for most it wouldn't be about addressing the issues the same-sex couple are having but more so if it is right to be in same-sex relationships. Because there is a divide and discrimination I'm not sure if this is a good idea.
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Have you ever observed a male/male physically abusive relationship?

Not to dismiss male/female abusive relationships, but, these m/m ones are a whole
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