All I can say is WOW! I have been with my wife for over 19 years. I know that's not nearly as long as some of you, but it is still considered marriage tenure these days.
When I first married I wasn't the best kind of person or husband. I still enjoyed partying, going out with my brothers and friends. Sometimes staying out till dawn. I was short-tempered, self-centered, and a handful for sure. The amazing part for me was my wife persevered through it all and stayed with me. We definitely had our share of troubles early in our marriage because of me. I even thought on several occasions that she was going to leave me. I finally figured it out, that I was the cause of the problems we were having. That's when I remember the prayers I had before I met my wife, how they were answered, and decided to make a change in me. I started going to church, renewed my faith in Jesus Christ, and everything changed 180 degrees. I can't thank God enough, to tell you the truth. Jesus Christ changed me. You would've had to have known me before to understand the changes that took place. I'm living proof of what faith can do.
So, looking at the "Five Kinds of Love" (it looks like six, but the "Agape" love is one that only Jesus Christ was able to have, so none of us will ever be able to have that kind.), our love is definitely "Eros", although there were some minimal times with a couple of the other kinds.
I am very observant of others, and I can truthfully say that my wife and I are probably one of the most affectionate married couples I've seen. We hold hands in public all the time, kiss in public (nothing passionate, not that we wouldn't want to...,
), and say "I love you" all the time. It doesn't matter who is around us when we say it. The little things we do reinforce our commitment to each other, like just last night at my daughter's basketball game my wife put on hand on my thigh. I reached down and clasped her hand, and we held hands for most of the evening.
We never leave each other before we say our "I love you!"
At home, I will walk up behind her giving her a hug, a kiss on the neck, compliment her all the time, tell her how much I love her and appreciate her -- all kinds of things to reinforce the love I have for her. I rarely can walk by her at home without touching her in some kind of way, sometimes a breast rub, sometimes a bum squeeze or pat (if nobody is watching, that is) We call each other every day before we head home. We always know where each other is. We text each other all the time with love notes, etc. I know! It sounds like a couple of teenagers, or newlyweds... Oh, well!
We, as a couple, have always known that God brought us together. It wasn't by happenstance. We are active in church, and pray every day. People compliment us all the time about our affection for each other, and I've had some even ask how we keep that after being married so long. I tell them it's because we love each other, pray together, and communicate that way. I don't tell them we have sex almost every day, though.
She is still the love of my life, and I still find her extremely attractive and sexy. Neither of us look exactly like we did when we got married, but she still turns me on, and when I see her nakedness I appreciate her beauty that much more (I probably gawk and drool). I always look forward to coming home after work just to see her.
Like with any long-term marriage, there's been ups and downs, but we are committed to each other, and have persevered through them all. It's a continuous process to keep things from getting mundane, or boring as some say. That's when you do something different, adding some spice of sorts.
Two VERY important aspects of any successful marriage are LOVE and COMMUNICATION. Love is commitment, and communication is being able to talk and listen to each other about anything without instilling anger and resentment. We may not always agree, but we certainly will respect each other's viewpoint. An added part of our marriage that is just as important to us is our FAITH.