Re: Just a given after 20+ years it's more of a "companion" type of love?
It does take effort to keep the spark alive, and both have to bring some excitement to the table (bed). But, it's not really hard to do.
Ya don't need sex every day, but you do need interaction all the time. It's the little things that count... kiss on the neck, quikie back rub, ass grabbing, and the little notes, texts, emails.
Also, some habits go a long way, just to make sure your partner always has you in their mind in a positive way.... perhaps a kiss goodby when they leave, and hello when they arrive, help with their stuff, clean sometime or do a chore for them.
When fights break out, minimize them and DONT ARGUE. No one wins, but mention that you understand and we can discuss this whenever. And makeup sex is great.
Just food for thought.