My husband and I have been married for 3 years, dated for 8. He is quite a popular guy. He has many friends both male and female and I don't have a problem with that. I think he can be friends with whomever he wants.
However, I noticed recently he has been talking to 1 particular female back and forth throughout the day, every day. I feel that he confides in her more than he does with me. He would send her private messages and pictures about what he is eating/hobbies/jokes more than he does with me. They are actively talking to each other via private messages, twitter, facebook, instagram, even online games. Sometimes I would see messages at 1 am, 3 am, 5 am in the morning.
When I tried to talk with my husband that I feel uneasy about this, he shrugged it off and said they are just friends and that I am overeacting. Not only does he continue to talk with her as much as he does, he also hides his phone. Am I being unreasonable? What should I do?
I would have concerns too if my husband was developing a pretty strong bond with another woman.
I can understand having similar interests, but I would have a problem with the after hour messages and hiding the phone.
If you don't mind me asking, since you dated for so long, (my husband and I dated since HS; we've been married for 15 years) did he have overly friendly relationships with women before you married him? Is he the type of guy that is more interested in what his friends think of him rather than his wife?
Before you overwhelm yourself with the "what ifs?" Take some time to assess whether you really trust your husband because only you can answer that. If he has ever in the course of your relationship given you a reason to doubt him, then you may have some things to think about. If he hasn't and you have already shared your thoughts on the situation to which he said, "it's nothing to worry about" then you need to redirect that time and energy towards yourself and the things that make you happy because maybe you are too available.
Either he is going to notice your absence or not. Regardless, his reaction would be some good information to have.