I feel a husband & wife should always take the concerns of the other at heart.. have a deep discussion about the WHY's we are having an issue...-that her posts were suggestive , flirty, etc...and hopefully, because you are his wife, he cares how you feel... he would see your side in this..
If the tables were turned & a male co-worker was doing this on your FB , for instance..how would your husband feel?
I know I know.. it doesn't always work out this nicely....but yeah.. it should... so then we have to dig our heels in deeper...
At the very least you should have been direct & honest with your husband , if he refuses to do anything.. removing her...then you will have to contact the woman... THAT would have gotten a response for sure !@# ... This would have been more transparent & he would have no recall to be angry at you for going behind his back..
Just BEST to go to our spouses 1st .. it is they who are committed to us..to solve from the home front & be united ..
agirlandhershells said: She herself was recently married, but I felt like her posts were too "cutesy" and I felt almost embarrassed at how flirty they sounded on such a public platform (since I was the girlfriend, after all... and I never posted anything nearly as flirty and intimate).
Can you give examples of what she is saying.. posting ? You did say you are hardly worried he wants to be with her.. so he didn't respond to her postings then..just ignored them.
Would you say she is an overly friendly type who posts liberally all over the place... or has she singled your husband out ??
I'm guessing bringing this up again is NOT going to go well... my question is..
What is suffering in the marriage itself ?? Communication, sex, etc? I would focus more on how to enhance the intimacy with your husband ...how does he feel about transparency ??.. and these things will be easier to open up & talk about ... Without this.. chances are he will start defending himself again -and it will be a repeat of the above....
So you & he don't share passwords, etc ? Another very good idea... this too should be something offered "willingly"... not forced.....