Husband too busy to visit with my family
My husband and I have been married ten years and have three small kids (ages 5, 2, and 8 months). When my first child was born he started working much harder and has become a bit of a workaholic. I don't think he's trying to avoid us, I think it has more to do with the financial stress of having so many young kids. However I do think he uses it as an excuse to avoid spending time with my family. Every time I visit the or attend parties I have to go alone with the kids. All the other couples there have their spouse with them except for me. It's to the point where my mom and some of her friends think we have serious marital problems because I'm always on my own. It's getting frustrating defending him but I don't see him changing. The only time I get to socialize with other adults with him with me is when we visit his family members (he always has time for them, and they are very nice to me so I like to see them). My family isn't rude to him but they're not super friendly either, probably because they feel like he doesn't want to be around them. Do any of you have issues with seeing your families? I think sometimes my husband just needs more time to himself and it's nothing personal against me or my family, and he's super close to his family so he makes time for them. However it gets lonely for me always being on my own, and I don't like the fact that people think we have such problems. Other than this issue we get along very well, don't fight much, have great sex, both are faithful, etc. Should I just accept that our marriage can't be perfect and not make a big deal of this?