Re: Living Apart
For about 2 months now, my wife of 4 years and I have been apart. At first, I was staying at the cabin to give ourselves some time to think. I would go back home and we got along ok, we did a lot of good talking then, about how we would rebuild things between us, about our future, etc. Our marriage was looking quite promising, we both do love each other. My wife got depression about 2 years ago which put a strain on our marriage. In my defence, I consider myself a good husband, I don’t drink, smoke, gamble, flirt, am loyal. In my wife’s defence, she is an excellent person, willing to help anyone in need out at anytime. Couldn't ask for a nicer person. She said that I was not there enough for her emotionally during her depression, and she was right, that is quite a bit of what we talked about during our visits together, like I said, we were working things out. About a month ago, my wife and her mother decided that my wife should move back in with her in another province. I had no input in the matter, my mother in law is very very controlling so off they went. I believe that her mother needs a friend where she now lives, and can very easily persuade my wife to stay there because my wife is not quite in the right frame of mind, with her depression. We are not kids, we got married later in life, my wife is in her late forties but her mother treats her like a child. When she left, we parted with tears, hugs, and kisses. We have since seem to have lost communication, only spoke to my wife once for about 2 minutes, am sure that the mother in law is to blame again. My wife is a very warm, loving, caring person and all this is very unlike her. Anyway, to answer your question, apart time may work if you love and care for each other enough to make changes like my wife and I were doing. I was always grateful that there was never that “third” person in our relationship. Now that I think about it, my mother-in-law is that “third” person. If you want your marriage to work and need time apart, you have to still live close to one another, stay good friends, talk openly, and do not let that third person in, your marriage is about you two. Hope this helps you, right now I don’t know if I’ll ever see my wife again, hopefully she opens her eyes one day and sees things the way they are.
Last edited by ronkw; 09-12-2011 at 12:32 PM.
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