My wife needs to make friends, but HOW!
I have been married to my wife now for 4 years and since this time she has had 1 friend. This friend of her's is not a super close friend, but a friend she talks with on occasions. Before me, they did hang out and did do things together, but not often.
Since we have been married she has only hung out with her friend maybe twice in 4 years, without me. Other times we would be all together, but only at occasional dinners with other people.
She always tells me I should hang out with my friends, but if I do she gets upset with me hanging out with them, meaning she is not with me and when she is, she ready to leave after 30 minutes.
I've said to her she should hang out with her friend because she should have girl time, but she doesn't.
The other day she complained about not having friends and said we should join a church to meet people. Problem is she speaks a foreign language, besides being able to speak good understandable English, but she wants to go to a foreign language church. I don't speak or understand her language, but she wont go unless I go. I told her I don't understand what is being said and if you are looking for friends that speak your language, you should meet with them, since their first language is the same as yours. I said we can go to a English church, but she doesn't want to.
She wants to do church activities, but we have gone and done things before with groups that speak her language. But for me, I was watching the clock because I was not enjoying the activity since I had no idea what was going on, even with her translating to me.
I said to my wife, you need to find "girl" friends with common interests, since she doesn't share my friends wives/girlfriends common interests and finds them boring.
For this reason we argue when I want to see my friends. She says things like, well I have no one to see so I will just stay home alone. Then when I get home, shes upset and gives me one word answers and what did you do, go to a bar, meet girls? I've told her many times what I do, I've called her, shes called me and I've answered, and she has gone with me a few times, but I still get the same response. Besides, I don't like hanging out in bars and I haven't done so since I was younger and I love my wife. I hang out with my friends at their house or get something to eat form a sandwich like shop.
So, My wife NEEDS to make friends, but HOW!
I'm lost on what to do????
Last edited by jjand; 04-04-2016 at 06:28 PM.