Does anyone have a happy marriage with a passive aggressive spouse? I know that people have various degrees of PA. I am looking for hope but I don't want to be naive and waste time.
I only hear horrible stories of people being married to PA spouses and they not only end in divorce but they are traumatized by the relationship. Is there anyone out there that is happy with their PA spouse? Is there anything positive?? Or should everyone leave/divorce their partner as soon as they find out their PA? Has anyone had an experience where their PA spouse changed and stayed changed?
I really appreciate any Input as I go through this difficult time in my life.
No, all marriages are institutions of despair and horror.
If you are looking for hope, then you're best dealing with your own shortcomings rather than worrying about your "partner".
Some hard head agressive folk love their PA partner, because they completely ignore them and charge on with their own activities, the PA person therefore just PA's everyone else. some very successful people work on that combination.
No you shouldn't just divorce them for , in your assessment, being PA.
No, you shouldn't expect the PA person, or anyone else, to change for _your_ suitability or preferrence, especially!! in a marriage.
What you do need to do is learn how to handle PA people.
The first step is not play their PA games.
The second is ignore all the name calling, shaming, sulks, freeze-outs, and lookdowns <- this is done by pursuing _your_own_life_.
As long as you're reliant on the PA person to do something, or provide you with happiness, or a world compass, you're in their power. You take that power back, by doing sensible prudent but directed stuff of your own. You know you have achieved success in this, when you are no longer co-dependent with them; so their opinions and bad habits don't worry you anymore. the main thing there is you're only responsible for changing YOU. It's people who manage and socially guage each others actions that are PA and PA prey.