What is your secret to happiness?
A common question to ask.. not always so easy to explain... After posting here for yrs now...one thing that keeps rearing it's ugly head as to WHY couples just can't get along & want away from each other -for a breather.. it could be as simple as : "Incompatibility".. this alone can destroy harmony ...and cause many ongoing frustrations...
It doesn't make either one of them a bad person.. but maybe not so good with each other, bringing out the BEST in each other.... they get on each other's nerves too much.. etc..
So my simple answer is: I believe we are "compatible" in more ways than is probably statistically normal for the average couple.. we're both honest to a fault..we've always gravitated to similar people, dislike the same sorts of people, we're both frugal, wanted a family, our love languages are in the same order, so many things. .....
When we fight (it happens from time to time)...we bear our souls, don't leave each others side.. one of those couples who "doesn't let the sun go down on our anger"... He has a way of de-escalating me getting me to laugh at myself when I get pi$$ed about something.. I can still feel his love. Kinda like this :
We care more about coming together (and cumming together) over winning an argument..because I know he wants the best for ME, for us, for our family...(that is priceless) and really.. so do I..
But honestly... take me or him and put us with someone else.... the dynamics would change dramatically.... There are many things I could never put up with in a man.. I've certainly read enough on this forum to think.. OMG! That woman is a Saint to stay with him!! Some might say this to my husband about me even..I've had my moments !
If My husband wasn't happy.. he'd just avoid me and busy himself elsewhere .. that's how his dad handled conflict with his Mother.. I can see him being very similar.. That's not us though... besides being my lover.. he's my best friend..