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Do you ever wish you could have a week off from marriage and kids?

Just a chance to find a retreat and spend some time in peace and quiet. I seem to go non stop between husband, kids, elderly parents and work. I think just being able to not think about anything would be nice.


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Re: Do you ever wish you could have a week off from marriage and kids?

I have that right now. A week of just me and the dog. But the thinking is still there.
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I have that right now. A week of just me and the dog. But the thinking is still there.
Oh my goodness I just want that to stop. The constant thinking. My little dog was talking in her sleep a few minutes ago. She is such a cutie.

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My wife is on vacation by herself this week. She misses the dog more than me.
Does she cook chicken for the dog but not for you? (Sorry, that was a classic thread.)

On topic, no I don't want a week off from marriage, but I suspect that has something to do with not having kids.



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Does she cook chicken for the dog but not for you? (Sorry, that was a classic thread.)
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On topic, no I don't want a week off from marriage, but I suspect that has something to do with not having kids.
Yep, kids are the death of a peaceful and relaxing union. Provided they had one to start with.

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No but she insists the dog sleeps on the bed, and that he sleeps BETWEEN us.

He is a 65 lb bulldog!!
65 lbs!! And here's my husband given out about our tiny cat in the bed! I did escort the cat to the nice sofa in living room. He cried like a baby at our bedroom door for a couple of nights.


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Re: Do you ever wish you could have a week off from marriage and kids?

Only from my bi-polar first XW, who I took out-of-town weekend respites from on a fairly regular basis with both of my small sons! She loathed traveling and craved isolation all to herself!

So the boys and I willingly acquiesed and had ourselves a large time in the process!

And, truth be told, they enjoyed it every much as I did!

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I've had so many "celebrations" and "events" over the last weeks - end of school year / graduation stuff. I'm "peopled" out.

I would love a few days AWAY. Taking a long weekend trip with my kids in a few weeks. Looking forward to it - but I probably won't come back feeling relaxed or refreshed.


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Only from my bi-polar first XW, who I took out-of-town weekend respites from on a fairly regular basis with both of my small sons! She loathed traveling and craved isolation all to herself!

So the boys and I willingly acquiesed and had ourselves a large time in the process!

And, truth be told, they enjoyed it every much as I did!

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It sounds like beautiful memories were made on these weekends. We did that often when our kids were younger.

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My wife is going out of town with some friends in several weeks and I can't wait - will just be the kids and me. Yes, that means that it's not just me, but that's fine. We'll do fun stuff and have a blast. If I was the one going out of town, she'd be a blubbering ball of stress after two hours, and I wouldn't hear the end of it when I got home, which is why I never go anywhere without the kids.
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Ok....I know I am not normal & should want this from time to time.. but No..

I have never wished to have more free time away from my husband.. I treasure our time together.. if anything.... I have wished to dump the kids and run off with him.. to some romantic location and enjoy that to the hilt.. but getting off by myself..no interest at all.

I would be anxious to get back & into his arms again.
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I have never wished to have more free time away from my husband.. I treasure our time together.. if anything.... I have wished to dump the kids and run off with him.. to some romantic location and enjoy that to the hilt.. but getting off by myself..no interest at all.

I would be anxious to get back & into his arms again.
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What is your secret to happiness?
A common question to ask.. not always so easy to explain... After posting here for yrs now...one thing that keeps rearing it's ugly head as to WHY couples just can't get along & want away from each other -for a breather.. it could be as simple as : "Incompatibility".. this alone can destroy harmony ...and cause many ongoing frustrations...

It doesn't make either one of them a bad person.. but maybe not so good with each other, bringing out the BEST in each other.... they get on each other's nerves too much.. etc..

So my simple answer is: I believe we are "compatible" in more ways than is probably statistically normal for the average couple.. we're both honest to a fault..we've always gravitated to similar people, dislike the same sorts of people, we're both frugal, wanted a family, our love languages are in the same order, so many things. .....

When we fight (it happens from time to time)...we bear our souls, don't leave each others side.. one of those couples who "doesn't let the sun go down on our anger"... He has a way of de-escalating me getting me to laugh at myself when I get pi$$ed about something.. I can still feel his love. Kinda like this :

We care more about coming together (and cumming together) over winning an argument..because I know he wants the best for ME, for us, for our family...(that is priceless) and really.. so do I..

But honestly... take me or him and put us with someone else.... the dynamics would change dramatically.... There are many things I could never put up with in a man.. I've certainly read enough on this forum to think.. OMG! That woman is a Saint to stay with him!! Some might say this to my husband about me even..I've had my moments !

If My husband wasn't happy.. he'd just avoid me and busy himself elsewhere .. that's how his dad handled conflict with his Mother.. I can see him being very similar.. That's not us though... besides being my lover.. he's my best friend..
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