Hi all. Long time lurker, first time poster. As the title says, I feel like my husband and I are growing apart. I am 30, he is 42. The age difference has never been a problem as I relate more to older people and always have. We've been married 4 years, together 6 total. I love him very much and he's a wonderful person, however the older I get, the more I feel like we are growing in separate directions. We have close to zero similar interests (except our mutual obsessive love for our 3 dogs). I like exercising, poker, shopping, going to the beach, biking, kayaking, dining out, etc. He likes driving around, gardening, building things, and fishing.
I work in an office (corporate finance). He works with his hands in our garage. After work during the week, we pretty much do our own thing and are never in the same room together. On the weekends, we used to do things together, but lately we've been just doing our own thing.
I want to make my marriage work, but he is starting to feel more like a roommate than a husband due to the fact that we never do anything together. For a while, I was trying to get him to do things with me, but he would always do it only out of a sense of obligation (and didn't hide it) and would usually have an attitude and end up ruining our time due to the fact that he'd rather not be doing whatever it is we were doing. I also tried to start doing his things with him, but after only spending time together doing his hobbies and interests, I got a little bitter and felt like it wasn't fair. So I stopped doing his hobbies with him and I stopped begging him to do mine.
We used to have a decent sex life, but it has been suffering lately because I feel no connection due to not really having any "couple time." He would have sex every day if he could and I'm sure he's not happy about the drought (it's like 1x per month these days), but I need some effort and quality time together in order for us to improve in the sex department.
Can anyone make any suggestions on how we can rebuild our relationship? I 100% want to stay married to him and make this work, but I'm getting lonely.
Last edited by Some chick; 06-06-2016 at 04:27 PM.