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post #1 of 26 (permalink) Old 06-06-2016, 09:49 PM Thread Starter
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My wife and i both forgot Saturday was our 34th anniversary. Is that a cause for concern?

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Terrible - you must both atone for your mistake by having a lot of hot passionate sex next weekend.
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A little. Do you have a lot going on right now?
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Terrible - you must both atone for your mistake by having a lot of hot passionate sex next weekend.
Yeah right. That ship has sailed.
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A little. Do you have a lot going on right now?
Pretty busy. I took the week off and kept my 3 year old grandson. Then we forgot about a graduation party we were going to attend so we had to jump thru hoops to get there on time. My wife is always busy trying to help her mother (alzhimers)
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Did you forget that your anniversary was the 4th, or did you forget that the 4th was Saturday. The first is pretty absurd, I mean, most couples think about it as it come rolling around at least once or twice. The second, considering you weren't planning anything, is reasonable.
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Not unless she's pissed off. Otherwise, no harm no foul.

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Let me tell you how I read this comment from a woman, as if it was my wife.



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A little.
She will never forget. She is very angry that I have not remembered such an important date and feels like I wish I never married her, or I could just forget about it because I thought it was a mistake to marry her.



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Do you have a lot going on right now?
This is a test. If I answer correctly, I could save myself a huge amount of heartache and revenge. If I do not, I'm in for it big time, no matter how I try to make it up to her.



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OK I'm going to risk seriously putting my foot into it. I personally don't remember the anniversary of my last speeding ticket, or my last broken bone. I've got to wonder if I would be too excited about remembering the anniversary of a dead marriage? Would I recall the date of a celebration I'm not invited to?

Am I getting this all wrong or did you just say that you forgot the anniversary of a sexless marriage that would not be celebrated anyway?
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OK I'm going to risk seriously putting my foot into it. I personally don't remember the anniversary of my last speeding ticket, or my last broken bone. I've got to wonder if I would be too excited about remembering the anniversary of a dead marriage? Would I recall the date of a celebration I'm not invited to?

Am I getting this all wrong or did you just say that you forgot the anniversary of a sexless marriage that would not be celebrated anyway?
Technically its not a sexless marriage.

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So there is a Chance . . . . .
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Dumb and Dumber? Love that movie.

Neither of us are upset about it. In the past it would bother me, now i could care less.
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I think what I am saying is that yes forgetting an anniversary is (or could be) an indication of how you value the relationship. Like many things the value of such an indicator depends on how you respond to it. If you think it is a problem then it is. If you think it is just you were busy, then that is probably true.
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My wife and i both forgot Saturday was our 34th anniversary. Is that a cause for concern?
You both forgot... how about you both set a date to celebrate.

At the very least, open a bottle of champagne with dinner at home.

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Personally I think you had a lot going on and you both forgot right? Someone asked if you didn't realize that Saturday was the day or you forgot the actual date.

I'd forgot about over analyzing it and take her out to dinner . I bet you both won't forget next years


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