....your wondering...Let me address....NO.. I don't have Attention Deficit Disorder...nor has anyone ever suggested something like this to me.. you'd be the 1st..
My brain is not like a hurricane (well maybe when I'm PMSing - I've felt it stuck on a hamster wheel...like a rain cloud is following me) but that goes with the territory there.. then it passes.. and everything is sunshine & roses again.....
Why would communicating relationship issues / seeking to find a helpful "context" a couple can live with , showing interest here = having some misfired brain function....Is it an odd past time.. well sure.. I suppose it is!!.... Maybe I'd be better off joining a Gym ..I don't know...I just don't have any desire to get all hot & Sweaty -at least not in that way..
I would never go those lengths wondering about a cup of coffee, running with all that...I realize just an example...but this I can't say happens with me..
I enjoy bouncing various subjects off of other people... why not.. it's learning.. it opens our world wider to others experiences.. I also LOVE the History Channel, Documentaries and Non-fiction.. this is what I'd seek in a Library .... We all focus on what interests us.. I went to the store today.. seeking to buy a new vacuum but decided to come back home , read reviews online, do a little research before I randomly buy a piece of junk at Walmart I might regret..
What any of our brains are focusing on at any given moment.. if only we could open our heads up & peer in, that might be scary!.... 3rd son is soon to be taking Electrical Engineering.... I know when he's quiet.. like waiting in a hour long line for a roller coaster.. he is drawn to the mechanics of the hydraulics - what stops the coaster.. he's fascinated by all of it....his wheels are spinning....mentally piecing it together...we talked about this in the coaster line one day..... Cool... would my mind go there.. hell no.. I might be checking out some hot guy in front of us or thinking those loud obnoxious people beside us needs to go die! I would be "observing people" more so..
43 unfinished Projects !@# ... How did your wife not want to kill you Scanner !!
... Oh but she did.. right !?
When I start a project.. I am bound & determined to finish it or I'd be highly upset with myself, I don't like things hanging in the air.. I'm not a procrastinator ...I like things done "yesterday"... I can be a perfectionist in some areas ... Yes...but then others.. not at all ! .... I do have a lot of energy... a little high test for a woman, probably. .. this week I've not caught up on my sleep.... I am working near 40 hrs & I still try to find time to post here.. I started this thread.. and I want to add to it...
I LIKE to THINK....I Love to communicate.... why .. I don't know.. I am also introverted and like to hibernate down on the Farm too....I could go long stretches of time just me & husband and not care if I see another soul.. this includes our kids !!
When I use the terms I wanted "the Drama, the Chaos" speaking of children.. maybe it's because I know OTHERS feel children are THIS, so I use those words... but truth is.. I would not seek Drama & Chaos.. (maybe I shouldn't use these words, if this is the impression I am giving)....
Really...our kids have been very easy to Raise.. good grades, we love their friends, virtually no drama.. the worst has been when our oldest put his arm through a window, freak accident, almost severed a tendon (the worry!)....and 2nd son's devastating heart break (feeling HIS pain, again the worry!) ...but outside of this, the normal ebb & flow of parenting , it's been nearly all smooth sailing here... we are thankful !
I would enjoy some solitude as much as anyone else.. A beautiful "take me away" moment would be kicking back...laying on a hammock under a shade tree , book in my hand...no kids.. no interruptions.. the birds singing in the background...a slice of heaven..
I do feel.. our life would be rather BORING without some kids.. we're not exactly the most adventurous couple around, being "home-bodies" and all.. we've always tried to watch our $$ carefully so we're not out running here & there, enjoying the high life.. But yes.. children have added a great deal to our lives...
I envied my friends growing up with large close knit families... I wanted that.. (is this so Odd , far fetched - actually I think it may be more common than you think for an only child)... so it makes sense I wanted to give our children siblings.. something I never had..
I suppose by saying my husband is a Saint.. this is speaking I am "hell fire" to live with somehow.. I guess this is another exaggeration I may need to lay down...I'm not THAT BAD.. nor was I ever that bad...
Is he more Patient, caring & loving than I feel the average Joe is... I believe so... He has seen me through some hard times ....when I hated living with my step Mother, when she'd put notes on the fridge door to keep my f'n hands off the food.. I cried on his shoulder ..I was angry, I was a damsel in distress (Men should RUN LIKE hell -isn't this what we tell them!)......I wanted out of there .... then years of worrying we may never have another child, I wasn't always a Joy....Yet he would say I wasn't all that bad..
Outside of those seasons of my life.. .I am generally a happy bubbly woman.....even if I have a "realist" "Pessimistic" side to me as well... I care about my own happiness, YES (don't we all).... but I don't want it at the expense of others, dragging them down...even during the bad times.. I validated him - thanked him for how he's always treated me.. I always gave back too..
I strive to be self aware in all my dealings, I do care to get along with other people, to be more of a blessing over a burden of some sort..
I think we all have some similarities with other posters here in given areas (like you've noticed some similarities between us & wanting some context), but it could end there you see....
Now me reading you....I'd bet you are a "E X T P" on Temperament tests "Extroverted ___ Thinking Perceiving" ... tell me if I am right ?