At university, I shared a suite with 2 other women. It was the 80s, so well before the digital age or any time that having a cellphone could fit a stundet budget.
I put an anwering machine on the phone as they were called at the time. The other 2 women were able to access their messages. One was very good about writing down my and the other womans' messages. And I did the same whenever I accessed the answering machine.
What I noticed and what other people who were trying to reach me noticed was that the answering machine was never reset.
It became clear that it was down to one person. I aksed nicely if she could reset the machine once she checked the messages. She said would, she didn't.
Finally accepting that my gentle reminders were getting what I wanted, I asked her is there was something more that I needed to do.
She said "whatever you want, I'm willing to do whatever you want."
So I explained to her that I want the answering machine reset to receive messages since all three of us depend on people who contacting us ...like for study groups.
So I still found the answering machine UN reset after she took messages off. I would ask her what is preventing her from doing it..... trying to have an open honest discussion with her.
Her response was whatever you want that's what I'll do.
Which never happened.
, please tell what I was doing wrong in that scenario.