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post #1 of 29 (permalink) Old 09-30-2016, 12:29 PM Thread Starter
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The grateful thread

So I have alluded to recent difficulties between my husband and I. Rather than wait until things were so impossible, we sought counseling. Going great, btw! She is awesome. I wanted to comment on some things that I am very grateful for.

He is a great father. It speaks to his moral center. There is a thread on here about a woman struggling to get child support. He would never, ever, ever abandon his children. He will take care of their physical, emotional and spiritual needs forever and ever.

He addresses our issues with openness, honesty, humility where required. He has asserted this is out of love for me. How can that be bad?

He is really good in bed.

What are you long termers grateful for?

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I am grateful Mrs. meson believes in me and respects me enough to tell it like it is.

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I am grateful for the ability to keep on keeping on.
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I'm grateful that my W stood by me for 20 years waiting/praying that I would become the H I am now. Sure, I was the provider and great dad. But more of a room mate with my W. That has completely changed and for the better. I grateful she held onto the rudder and stayed the course. It has been fair winds and following seas since I changed my ways.

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I am grateful for Mr Capricious
He is a wonderful father and role model to our three children.
He is a great provider.
He loves me and respects me.
He is a wonder head/leader for our family.
He takes care of me, in more ways than one
He rocks my world
In return I make sure he is a very satisfied man.
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I am grateful for the time I continue to have so I may repay my wife for her support in my worst days.

I am grateful that without this patience, I would never have learned to listen with my heart instead of only my mind.

I am grateful for the children we have together, for they have probably taught me far more about the positive in life than I have them.

I am grateful for her non-judgement so I may follow my spiritual path without conflict and grow in a way best for me.
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I am grateful for the time I continue to have so I may repay my wife for her support in my worst days.

I am grateful that without this patience, I would never have learned to listen with my heart instead of only my mind.

I am grateful for the children we have together, for they have probably taught me far more about the positive in life than I have them.

I am grateful for her non-judgement so I may follow my spiritual path without conflict and grow in a way best for me.
Thank you! That reminds me to be grateful to my husband for teaching me to be non-judgmental.
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One of my favorite Gratitude quotes...




So many things I could mention here.. but this stands out among them all...

While dating...I told my husband I wanted at least 3 children, he knew how much I wanted to build a family of our own...But I added : IF one wasn't a girl, I'd want to keep trying (my Mother wasn't in my life, I had no sisters, no nieces, I just really REALLY longed to experience that "Mother/ daughter" thing)...

Not many men would have answered like he ... I remember as clear as day...he said "You can have as many as you want ....so long as you take care of them"... meaning... not expecting him to get up in the middle of the night, complaining I was too tired, they're too much work, cost too much, things like that...

I promised... and he kept his promise to me ....we ended up with (the girl was #5, then we tried to give her a sister but that didn't pan out)

I don't think he was too worried about that promise....I was never one who needed much sleep & meticulously careful with $$, tighter than him even...After our 1st son...we found we couldn't conceive...I was distraught, each year passing, then another & another... baby showers were the hardest... I was living by my basal body thermometer, our sex life became "scheduled"...

Getting married went very smoothly for us - till we hit this bump in the road....

Looking back, I can not express HOW MUCH I appreciated his attitude, his care, his love during those 6 + years....I wasn't such a Joy to deal with...I had my angry temperamental moments ... he never once tried to talk me out of "giving up hope"....he'd comfort me if I needed a good cry....he was by my side for all my Tests, a Laparoscopy, offered his sperm on demand, at one point we looked into adoption, even scheduled an in vitro..but amazingly got pregnant on that very cycle (sure saved us some $$!)....

I couldn't have asked for a more supportive husband through this "valley"...his support was the sun shining through the clouds....and such a caring doting Father , always..

Through him... because of him.. really.. I have realized all the dreams I ever dreamed...and I am so very grateful....
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I have a huge, long, incredible list. I'm grateful for so many things my husband does every single day, I'm not sure I could possibly list them all.

Let's see...

I'm grateful that Mr. Suaveterre enjoys so many of the things I do. He'll watch silly, childish shows with me just because he knows I like them. He'll play the games I play and once he even offered to read the books I've been enjoying so we can talk about them. I should take him up on that, as I've re-read one five times and I'd love to read it with him. We're never lost for conversation.

I'm grateful that he went to pre-marital counselling with me and took everything on board before we got married. I'm grateful that e didn't give up on me when I revealed how little I knew about marriage.

I'm grateful he likes playing "The And" With me. It's a game where you talk about deep, emotional subjects and ask each other deep questions written on notecards. I know it's way out of his comfort zone and as somebody who thrives on intimate conversations, I am so glad he enjoys talking with me through that medium.

I'm grateful we know each other's love languages.

I'm grateful he works so spectacularly hard at his programming job, and I'm grateful he enjoys it. I'm grateful for the fact that he's eager and able to provide for us and give me the life I've always wanted.

I'm grateful that he's so level-headed and calm in situations that would make me want to curl up and die.I'm grateful for his logical side because it gives him the tools he needs to be able to handle life with an admirable amount of composure and finesse.

I'm grateful that he still wants to be with me me after five years of mistakes and trials.

I'm grateful that he doesn't mind that I can't really cook. I'm grateful that he's content to take me out to dinner.

I'm grateful for all the holidays we've taken together and the forever-cherished memories we've made together.

I'm grateful that he helps me up and down the stairs, and that he catches me when I get too tired and trip on my own feet. I'm grateful that he looks after me when I'm ill. I'm grateful that he understands and keeps his wits about him when i'm going through depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and insecurity, and can't think straight.

Most of all, I'm grateful that he still loves me in spite of my numerous shortcomings. I'm soooo happy to see love in his eyes when he walks through the door and looks at me.

I'm sure I haven't included everything. I'll come back and add more later. Lots more.
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I'm grateful this thread is not about the Grateful Dead, that is what I read at first.

I'm grateful we enjoy the same music (not the Dead).

I would have never thought it possible on our wedding day but I'm grateful that after 24 years our love has gotten, and continues to get, stronger/deeper. (I totally ripped that off from the priest at the wedding we went to yesterday, but it's true and be both agree.)




Sigh, my wife gives me the speaking treatment.
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One of my favorite Gratitude quotes...




So many things I could mention here.. but this stands out among them all...

While dating...I told my husband I wanted at least 3 children, he knew how much I wanted to build a family of our own...But I added : IF one wasn't a girl, I'd want to keep trying (my Mother wasn't in my life, I had no sisters, no nieces, I just really REALLY longed to experience that "Mother/ daughter" thing)...
When I was pregnant with my second, I hoped for another boy. I felt I knew boy. I am so grateful for my daughter!
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Not many men would have answered like he ... I remember as clear as day...he said "You can have as many as you want ....so long as you take care of them"... meaning... not expecting him to get up in the middle of the night, complaining I was too tired, they're too much work, cost too much, things like that...

I promised... and he kept his promise to me ....we ended up with
My husband would get up, change the diaper, bring the babies in to nurse then bring them back to bed!

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(the girl was #5, then we tried to give her a sister but that didn't pan out)

I don't think he was too worried about that promise....I was never one who needed much sleep & meticulously careful with $$, tighter than him even...After our 1st son...we found we couldn't conceive...I was distraught, each year passing, then another & another... baby showers were the hardest... I was living by my basal body thermometer, our sex life became "scheduled"...

Getting married went very smoothly for us - till we hit this bump in the road....

Looking back, I can not express HOW MUCH I appreciated his attitude, his care, his love during those 6 + years....I wasn't such a Joy to deal with...I had my angry temperamental moments ... he never once tried to talk me out of "giving up hope"....he'd comfort me if I needed a good cry....he was by my side for all my Tests, a Laparoscopy, offered his sperm on demand, at one point we looked into adoption, even scheduled an in vitro..but amazingly got pregnant on that very cycle (sure saved us some $$!)....

I couldn't have asked for a more supportive husband through this "valley"...his support was the sun shining through the clouds....and such a caring doting Father , always..

Through him... because of him.. really.. I have realized all the dreams I ever dreamed...and I am so very grateful....
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I'm especially grateful for the gift of personal growth and the ability to understand that there isn't a single thing in this life that I am unable or powerless to change for the better.

"If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life."

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I'm grateful for his constant and unwavering love for me.
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I am grateful for my H's kindness, patience, tenderness and love he has for me and our kids. I am so thankful that I have a husband who reaches to hold my hand in his sleep. Who is willing to over look my faults and flaws to love me as he does.

I am grateful for my kids and the love we share. And for God to bless me with a daughter who likes most of the things I like and enjoy.
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