But isn't love more than just sex and money? Chorus, he does a good amount. Help with laundry, load the dishes...I cook and do cleaning. Your comment does have a lot of merit. I need to process this
How long have the two of you been married?
Do you have children? If so, how many?
How old are the two of you?
What do you call a 'good amount'?
He 'helps' with the laundry and loads the dishes? You cook and of the cleaning? He's not working he should be doing 100% of all house and yard chores. The only thing that you should be doing are things that he cannot do in a full day's work at home chores. For example he should cook all meals. You can help with the after dinner clean up because you are both then off work.
If you work 8-10 hours a day to support your family, then he should be putting in 8-10 hours a day working at home.
Why do you call what he does 'help'. Household chores are not only your job. They are both of your respopnslibty. So he's not 'helping' you. He's doing what is his responsibility. He'd have to do it if he lived alone. And when he's not working, then he needs to do what a stay-at-home wife would do... just about everything.
Yes love is more than money and sex. In marriage love is mostly an equal partnership. By him leaving the bulk of household chores to you and leaving bread winning to you he is taking serious advantage of you and showing you gross disrespect. The message is that you are is slave for him to take advantage of. Thus providing him with a leisurely life that you cannot have because of his unilateral decision to take advantage of you. If he worked as many hours as you do, then the two of you could enjoy a lot of free time together... giving you a much easier life.
My bet is that the reason he does not want sex with you is because he sees you as his mother. You take care of just about everything for him... like his mommy. Guys don't have sex with their mother. Mothers are not sexy. Men also do not respect women (wives/girl-friends) who they put in the 'mother' position. Most people, men and women, don't like having sex with people who they do not respect.
What does he do with his spare time?
Your husband sounds a lot like a guy who I was married to.. .note the past tense.