The thing is, I do all that for my wife, AND I have a full time job.
He needs to find a job - not just for your sake, but for his. Since you are not short on money, he should look for jobs that are meaningful, not just that have high pay.
He can spend his time on useful volunteer work. It gives him a sense of value, and is also a good place to make contacts.
If he is at home so much, he can learn a new skill. Learn python, or web design, or windows administration. He can learn to cook - its not magic, read, try, learn.
His behavior wrt sex is very much like my wife's and it typical for a LD person. Even if he gets a job, this may be enough reason to leave the marriage. Life without passion is missing something really important.
Here are his excuses/reasonings:
On cooking: he's not a good cook and I don't like his bland cooking anyways. If I marinate, he will cook it up. But usually, if i'm too tired to cook, we go out. It bothers me that he plays on the computer or watches tv when I'm doing the cooking after work. I cook us a hot breakfast every day... I get it. Writing this down does have a way of making it clear.
On the job: He did 1.5 years of retail work and decided he doesn't have the patience for customer service work. But he's not qualified for jobs that he wants. He's gone back to school three times, but quit for various reasons. I'm desperate for him to have something outside the house. He currently spends his time on the computer looking for work and applies to 1 job a week. He goes tot he gym 5x a week, which takes up half of the day.
On finance: I have a high salary, so he doesn't see the need to contribute.
On intimacy: He's working on it, but never wants it (from me at least). I always have to initiate. Most of the time, he complains that he is too bloated, has a headache, doesn't feel good, too tired. When we do have a session, it is quick and gets the job done. He does like cuddling, holding hands, spooning.
On house chorus: We share this. He puts the clothing in the washer/dryer, I fold and iron. He loads the dishes, I unload. He helps with food prepping, I cook.
Nice things he does for me: He makes me coffee, pour me a drink at night, goes on walks with me, let me have the last piece of sweets, be supportive of my career, be protective of me, compliments the way I look, be understanding of my work commitment