Re: Unemployed and unambitious husband
OP's husband is more like a trophy wife. He got him a sugar momma to pay his bills and all she requires him to do is the absolute bare minimum. He gets to flitter around all day, go to the gym, do a little here and there, and someone else will pay his bills for him. Heck, he doesn't even have to put out but once every month or so. It sounds like a marriage of (his) convenience.
Frankly, I wonder exactly how terrible OP's previous relationships were that she considers this guy a catch and wants to keep him around. I couldn't imagine wanting to come home every day to a pretty boy who doesn't want to have regular mind blowing sex with me AND who can't/won't keep a job while doing hardly anything around the house or in the community.
One of my favorite posters on another forum I frequent is a SAHD who has 5 children he homeschools. He and his wife decided it would make more sense for him to stay home than for her to do it because she had a higher income. He does the childcare, the schooling, the household chores, the errands, and the yard work as well as handles their social calendar. I have no argument against a man staying home, but he better be doing something productive with his time.