This week will be my 44th wedding anniversary. Although my marriage has not been traditional as far as monogamy and heterosexuality goes, it has been a great marriage. My wife and I met on a train. Three weeks later we were engaged and then married 9 months after that. We have relocated 13 times and lived in 9 different homes. I have travelled to 21 countries during my Army and business career. So I was away from home for as much as 3 months a year during certain periods of time. I also worked 10-12 hour days, at night and on weekends as I did last night and this morning.
My wife put up with all of that without a complaint. My wife is also bisexual and we shared her girlfriend for most of our marriage. In fact, her girlfriend had her own room in our home where she lived full time until she got married to a man who was OK with sharing her with us. After that she spent anywhere from a weekend to two weeks a month with us, even joining us on vacation with her husband going his own way until it was time to go home. We were never told the nature of their relationship and we respected our girlfriends request not to ask questions. Although this must sound complex, it was not or us. It was just our "normal".
Our girlfriend has not been with us for the last 6 years and we are living our remaining years as a couple for the first time. We are even monogamous except we would not mind another women to love in our lives. However too many wrinkles in bed is no a pretty sight and we both have medical issues. I should also mention that we had no kids. We have seen the changes in couples once they have kids and the arguments over them.
We exchanged anniversary cards today and to our great surprise they were the same exact cards. We both picked them because the sentiments written fit how we felt about each other perfectly. This never happened before.
My wife put up with all of that without a complaint. My wife is also bisexual and we shared her girlfriend for most of our marriage. In fact, her girlfriend had her own room in our home where she lived full time until she got married to a man who was OK with sharing her with us. After that she spent anywhere from a weekend to two weeks a month with us, even joining us on vacation with her husband going his own way until it was time to go home. We were never told the nature of their relationship and we respected our girlfriends request not to ask questions. Although this must sound complex, it was not or us. It was just our "normal".
Our girlfriend has not been with us for the last 6 years and we are living our remaining years as a couple for the first time. We are even monogamous except we would not mind another women to love in our lives. However too many wrinkles in bed is no a pretty sight and we both have medical issues. I should also mention that we had no kids. We have seen the changes in couples once they have kids and the arguments over them.
We exchanged anniversary cards today and to our great surprise they were the same exact cards. We both picked them because the sentiments written fit how we felt about each other perfectly. This never happened before.