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post #16 of 91 (permalink) Old 11-15-2016, 02:45 PM
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@MAJDEATH, wtf is wrong with you???? Do you even read anything that people post to your threads on here? She DIDN'T KNOW?!?!?!?! Is she severely mentally handicapped or something????
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She was not aware that it was a problem for me
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His wife.
perhaps his mind is cloudy from the lack of oxygen, with his head up his butt. ;-)
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She was not aware that it was a problem for me, and I was wrong in not communicating my concerns clearly to her sooner.
Oh, she knew. SHE KNEW!!!!! That's why she did it when you WEREN'T around.

I can't wait for her to identify herself.

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Don't hold your breath, tropical.
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IF MAJDEATH's wife is reading this thread she's thinking 1 of 2 things.

1- Those people on the forum aren't getting the real truth, so I will post and clear things up and show them that I am innocent.
2- Damn I ain't walking into no hornet's next they got me PEGGED I can't imagine why MAJDEATH hasn't figured it out for himself.

Her continued silence will speak volumes. Not that we really need to not hear anything else of course.
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Oh, she knew. SHE KNEW!!!!! That's why she did it when you WEREN'T around.

I can't wait for her to identify herself.
It wasn't me!!!!!!!!!!!

It was the one armed man. You find this one armed man...then, then, and only then will you have something similar to truth regarding the alleged footrubs

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Oh, she knew. SHE KNEW!!!!! That's why she did it when you WEREN'T around.

I can't wait for her to identify herself.
It would be interesting, I'm sure, but probably not very likely.

And he tends to abandon his threads (maybe because he doesn't hear what he wants to -- who knows) so there's that.
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I thought he actually did get a lawyer and move out, since haven't heard from him.

But then I should have known better than that.



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I thought he actually did get a lawyer and move out, since haven't heard from him.

But then I should have known better than that.


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I thought he actually did get a lawyer and move out, since haven't heard from him.

But then I should have known better than that.
The TAM pattern when they go dark is usually the opposite of that -- and they are reluctant to admit it.

When they get a lawyer and move out they are ready to share that.

When they don't, well . . . Especially when they keep taking a serial cheater back. Not much encouragement for that decision.
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The TAM pattern when they go dark is usually the opposite of that -- and they are reluctant to admit it.

When they get a lawyer and move out they are ready to share that.

When they don't, well . . . Especially when they keep taking a serial cheater back. Not much encouragement for that decision.
It's much, much worse than that. She's a serial foot massager.
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Sorry, Major, but your wife is not a woman of integrity or honor. Didn't she write a book on relationship? How in the world could she not have known? She would have to be the stupidest woman on the face of the earth to not know that having another man in your house to give her an intimate foot rub while you were away was not okay. If she had an ounce of respect for you or your marriage, she wouldn't have done that. And here, you are excusing her behavior as having a lack of boundary. You say she didn't think it was a big deal to secretly arrange to have another man give her a foot rub. I think your wife may have thought that given all the times she spread her legs for other men, that getting a foot rub would be no big deal. What is there to really fight for? Whether you go by morals, integrity, class, honor, character, or just plain looks, there are millions of women out there who far surpass her. I wish I could take over your body for one day so I could throw her to the curb after having her served with divorce papers.

It's your life but I think you deserve better. You're just scared of letting go and wading out to the unknown waters.
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He must be getting mind blowing sex now. That's the only explanation that he didn't throw her out. She probably knew life time alimony was just days away from being unavailable and tricked him. HAHA.
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And he tends to abandon his threads
I noticed this from the beginning. Got annoying. He would start a new thread, I'd skim it, same old same old, ignore the rest.
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