Re: Maintaining Boundaries
Sorry, Major, but your wife is not a woman of integrity or honor. Didn't she write a book on relationship? How in the world could she not have known? She would have to be the stupidest woman on the face of the earth to not know that having another man in your house to give her an intimate foot rub while you were away was not okay. If she had an ounce of respect for you or your marriage, she wouldn't have done that. And here, you are excusing her behavior as having a lack of boundary. You say she didn't think it was a big deal to secretly arrange to have another man give her a foot rub. I think your wife may have thought that given all the times she spread her legs for other men, that getting a foot rub would be no big deal. What is there to really fight for? Whether you go by morals, integrity, class, honor, character, or just plain looks, there are millions of women out there who far surpass her. I wish I could take over your body for one day so I could throw her to the curb after having her served with divorce papers.
It's your life but I think you deserve better. You're just scared of letting go and wading out to the unknown waters.