Hey I like it too. But if you have a good marriage you know that that is only part of what makes it work, and for the most part one of the more easier ones if both of you like that kind of thing. The hard part is dealing with their moods and cleaning their dirty underwear. To me that is love, true love is cleaning the toilets with your SO hairs on them. See I told you I was romantic
Sure there is the Unrealistic in Romance.... the characters are always model
, one is always available, like they fell out of the sky, no baggage, a crazy ex that screwed them up a bit.....then the man is always loaded, he may own a castle or something... Personally...I'd like to see a few "Blue collar" romances now & then... ..Though once it gets under way.. the mounting feelings, whatever challenge they face ..leading up to falling in love, the emotional climax...I love it !
There's only a couple hrs.. I think leaving out the dishes or cleaning toilets is Ok in these movies.. ha ha..
Isn't it what we all long for, ultimately....even if they present MEN, some rugged as steel, being too mushy...(my husband is an expressive sentimental type -he's weird like that) so to me, it's not all that unrealistic..
It's really about the feelings these movies evoke in us...they are mountain top feel good... this is the problem... some can not watch romances, it hurts too much.. they may want to shoot the screen.. I can understand that..
I guess I look at it this way.. we sure have enough killings, true murder brought to life, glamorizing fictional Mistresses / Cheating -on reality Tv too!.... Lifetime movies- they have grown progressively SICKER over the years...to where I am covering my eyes silently screaming to not see the blade plunging into a body/ blood & gore is everywhere...... So yeah.. I'll take the unrealistic romances over some of that..
Always enjoyed the classics.. like Wuthering Heights
(so tragic!), Pride & Prejuduce
...Watched Sid & Nancy
yrs ago.....now that was a dysfunctional drug addicted mess, but it goes to show no matter how f***ed up one is.. there is probably someone out there to share your obsession with you.. until death...it was still a love story.
I never did see The Vow
(a true story).. pretty sure I will cry all the way through that one..
We've never had fights, even a spat over picking up or who does what in the house.. that's my role... dirty socks.. toilet rings.. it's all good....
Yes we all get moody, have bad days, stress at work, kids driving us mad... many times just seeing him walk through the door...it's calming... we share our day.. we make each other feel better.. truth is... I've caused more fights (stupid fights) over wanting more sex..worrying he's loosing his sex drive....I had this crazy hormonal surge in mid life... was loving it but also.. it was tormenting at times.. I could hardly concentrate.. I felt like a young man in puberty... how many men could keep up with 3 times a day -my husband couldn't... . .. Even at that, these were some of the best times too...He could think of far worse things for me to be grouchy about.. that I couldn't get enough of his body! ...He'd joke about it..... finally I got it through my thick skull that his desire is fine, he's Ok.. it was me out of whack...
Then turn that upside down & go back 19 yrs.. he was the higher drive.. and I was oblivious.. he was passive.. and well.. we missed each other more than we should have.. We all have some regrets, right... so long as it's not with who we are with...
Since this is an anonymous forum, I can admit my darkest secret: Even though I'm a guy I actually like Hollywood romances.... I do realize that they represent real romance about as well as James Bond movies represent real espionage work. The concept of romance is great, as long as people really understand what is fantasy and what isn't.
Have any of you met someone who's living in a bonafide "fantasy world" due to -too many romantic movies, books? ... how does such a woman act ?? It's a serious question..
We caught a movie on this once... I forget the name.. but this young woman literally entertained all this BLISS inside her head against the obvious of how the man (who was married ) was treating her...oh it was tender at 1st ...but basically HE WAS USING HER for sex.. she was pathetically deluded..it was sad... wouldn't believe him when he wanted rid of her even...she was still entertaining them getting married, living happily ever after... it was a fictional movie.. but as deluded as she was.. I never met anyone that nuts -or they would have mental issues..