Re: Is "Once a cheater, always a Cheater" an accurate quote?
To be a "serial" cheater it really becomes a matter of cognizance. There is a poster here named losinghim. She had an encounter with a friend of her H that lasted less than 60 seconds. Why? Why only 60 seconds and why only the one time? What prevented her from continuing, from having a months long fling? She did. Her mind began extrapolating from compiled data and the projected outcome was not acceptable to her, in fact it repulsed her. Not only for what she was doing to her H but also what type of person it made her in her own mind.
Her H did not do the 180, in fact he did not even know about it for over 2 years. He finally found out when she told him. Why did she tell him? She had gotten away with it for 2 years, why tell now, what made her? She did. Once again her mind extrapolated from compiled data and projected an outcome that was not bearable to her. What do you suppose would have been the outcome for her if, instead of processing the information as she did, she simply reveled in her own pleasure and ego, giving no thought to the future, her H, her family, nothing but herself? Most likely she would have continued on that night and perhaps on into the future, with that OM or another.
Her mind was able to draw a very negative conclusion to her actions affecting not only herself but her H as well thereby displaying empathy, an emotion absent in underdeveloped intellects.
Now try to imagine that the person is not just ignoring the processed thoughts regarding all the negative outcomes but rather is not capable of having them at all. Her mind simply does not process data in a way that allows her to recognize the harmful effects of her behavior. Now try to further imagine her mind trying to commit to a lifelong partnership.
When some people, certainly not all and perhaps not even most, contemplate marriage their mind extrapolates data from all known sources and projects a probable scenario. They consider monogamy and all that it entails, sharing resources and the accumulation of same, procreating and raising offspring and many other factors that comprise a lifelong union of two people. However, when a person of limited intellect tries to contemplate marriage the data is processed erroneously. Much of the data is simply not included and that which is is not projected accurately but rather in a unrealistic, fantasy like future. Then, when real life happens, they are soon very disillusioned with "marriage" and, since they haven't the intellect to carefully decide how to proceed, they act in the only way available to them, impetuously. And, in the absence of empathy, their actions are self serving and unilateral in nature.
They are simply unprepared for the commitment that is marriage and wholly unable to abide within its "rules" and therefore they "cheat".