So I was having Christmas at his parents house with the whole family. I was sitting at this table for hours eating and talking etc. my FIL was to my right, my husband was to my left. Except he got up multiple times to take a nap. I drank 2 big glasses of white wine, while also eating a ton, and drinking lots of water. I wasn't buzzed at all. My husbands cousin was sitting across from me (my friend) and made a joke about how the white wine is half way done, and I should have another glass. And we laughed, and I said I probably will eventually. At the same time as I said that, my strict ultra religious judgmental FIL said very curtly and with mean judgement "no! She is done drinking!". And my husbands cousin and I looked at each they like geez relax. And I stayed calm and just said to her, I probably will have another glass later. (I can't stand when people tell me what to do, I am an adult, and it's Christmas for gods sake). My husband missed this. Driving home I was telling him about it bc it bothered me. And my husband said... really? When did this happen? I answered. Then he said that's weird bc he was offering us wine all night (which is a lie). Then he said he was probably joking and that I mis understood him. (His FIL doesn't joke, he's super serious and he doesn't drink at all).
Anyway, this started a huge fight between us because I tried to explain to him that when I'm upset about something and I try to talk to him about it he ends up making me feel worse and not supporting me or comforting me. He was basically telling me he didn't believe me and that Its my fault bc I mis understood my FIL. It makes me mad bc he wasn't there and Right away doesn't believe me and defends them.