Re: The Long Haul
My GF of 5 years and I get along great. We never fight, we rarely disagree and when we do it never comes to the point of raised voices or name calling, more like one of us is in a bad mood or whatever.
I've had relationships with a lot of fighting and arguing.
I don't think that making a relationship work, and not having conflict takes a lot of work- at least not as an ongoing day to day thing.
It takes work to meet the right person, and work on yourself and any anger issues and other negative personality traits. But if you get yourself to a good place, and meet someone who is relatively stable, who you have a lot in common with, who doesn't resort to fighting when things don't go your way, you've got it mostly figured out.
Took me more than half a century to get there, but it can be done.
If I can offer one tip: Don't stay in bad relationships.
If I can offer a second tip: It's not always the other person's fault. If it seems that way, a lot..especially with more than one person.. then you might need some serious introspection.
Things are more like they are now, than they ever were before - Dwight D Eisenhower