i have been away from my wife for over a month now driving truck. im in a training program that will eventually make me a qualified CDL-A driver. my wife works at a hospital and she occasionally has her blood pressure checked. it was dangerously high so she went on medication and took herself off of the pill. the pill and high blood pressure do not mix well and that is indeed a medical fact. i have a 5 year old son that i love very much but have always been un-easy when it comes to having a second child, the cost of raising a child is not cheap if you choose to actually pay for all of the expenses and not let the child be a "ward" of the state. i told my wife i was thinking of a vasectomy. i thought we were on the same page not really wishing for anymore kids. well she expressed to me that she would like to have one more child. I'm still deeply in love with my wife we have been married 12 years and value what she wants. she told me this is something she truely wants, so i will do my damnedest to try to make her a mother of two. i did tell her absolutely no more then two unless we end up with twins (hopefully not twins lol). when i come home we will have sex, she is off the pill, and we will not use a condom..... i will finish inside of her like i always have. whatever happens, happens. frankly if she wants another child i hope i can get her pregnant again. I love and respect this woman to the ends of the earth, if she wants another child that i can create with the woman i love its actually a wonderful thing. i cant say no to her.
i had a serous talk with her about it because i dont want to be a bad husband and get snipped if she doesnt feel the family is complete. after we have another baby without question or hesitation i will get the vasectomy done. she completely agrees. we do not use condoms, she doesnt want to be on the pill anymore and two kids is enough to make both of us happy.
part of a successful marriage is not being selfish and making sure your partner is complete and getting what they want out of marriage and life. she was thrilled when i told her i was willing to have another child.
Last edited by ad356; 02-14-2017 at 05:24 AM.