I`m always seeing this 2.5% number for successful marriage born from infidelity.
Can anyone cite any study for this number?
My Google-Fu must be sucking tonight as I can`t find anything out there.
I did find this site that states marriages born of affairs have a 25% shot of making it which sounds a bit more reasonable to me. About Affairs » Blog Archive » Can Relationships That Start as Affairs Succeed…Revisited
There is one respondent in that thread who twists that 25% into 2.5% with a disrespect for mathematical objectivity I haven`t seen since Copernicus unravelled the epicycles.
LMAO…ohh that was funny!!
I`d just like to know what the odds are in truth and would appreciate any input.
It's a very low percentage. If you understood all the dynamics that you are fighting against to make a relationship as a result of an affair workout it will make more sense.
There is ONE particular situation where a relationship born of an affair may work.
Say a husband or wife is in a very abusive and corrosive relationship. They are trapped and no way out. They meet their angel, the social groups are happy and bless the new relationship, it was formed for a good reason to start with, that may just work.
As usual its still always better to divorce first before starting a new situation.
The relationships as results of affairs usually do NOT workout, because you got into it in the first place normally off of a bad motive. It's usually lust and passion based and a good component of the lust and passion was driven from needing to be underground, the secrecy of it. Also in the minds of both people was bad motives and reasonings.
All of this stuff will come out and be paid for later, plus the social component. It's likely your going to have alot of people mad, many of them formed your support bases.
Without your support bases, and now support bases turned against you, you will have stress. You never had any good fundamental reasons to be together in the first place, so it won't last.
Never mind the reasons, is they usually don't last.
Player stuff usually comes to light and is dissolved badly.