I guess I come from a completely different place than you do. I've been faithful to my husband for 21 years. I know it's possible.
I never said it wasn`t possible as it obviously is.
However, this forum is riddled with marriages that went 20-30-40 years with no infidelity and then WOOPS there it is!
So to believe longevity equates to security is not a good axiom to buy into.
I didn`t say I`m incapable of trusting, I said I`m incapable of completely trusting anyone not to cheat because it`s been shown to me that anyone can...anyone under the right circumstances.
BUT, if two cheaters try to build a relationship together I think too many things are stacked against them.
Well I`m living proof that`s a fallacy but what I`m looking for is some objective evidence to support that assertion.
I believe the assertion is wrong headed based on numbers alone.
If the common numbers cited above are correct then 70% of people cheat at one time or another.
Odds are that a vast majority of relationships involve at least one if not two cheaters.(odds are most relationships would involve two cheaters.)
The fact is that the vast majority of marriages do not fail.
So past cheating is at best a poor barometer when considering the success of a marriage.
There are obviously other more important factors involved in the longevity of marriage.