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Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
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Originally Posted by effess
It'll be 12 years this Spring for us. Before the kids, we generally went out to dinner ourselves. Although on our second anniversary we went to Vegas.
The past few years, we get a babysitter to stay the night with the kids, and we stay over downtown, have a nice dinner before and walk around the shops, then the next morning some more hanging out or staying in watching movies in the hotel.
I generally plan everything, as my wife is very pragmatic and not very romantic.
For us usually the grandparents baby sit but this year they couldn't . Its the opposite here when it comes to planning, if I don't plan anything there will be nothing. H is romantic in his own way but doesn't plan at all.
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
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Originally Posted by heartsbeating
I can understand that you wanted to celebrate on the date - even if that meant doing something simple.
On the other hand, maybe it's nice that he wanted to wait to have (in his way) a "proper" celebration.
I don't know if that 2 week time frame has passed but I wonder if you could both celebrate the next 2 weeks leading up to how he'd like to celebrate. Maybe something each day until then. Leave love notes, or whatever it is ...maybe this year's anniversary gets the whole month instead of just one date?
lovely ideas, thanks! yesterday I spoke to him and apologized for complaining and he also apologized for not planning anything in advance. He had booked for all of us to celebrate next weekend at an island beach resort, this is the first year we'll be celebrating with kids...its also his first time planning.
I resist routine. I resist making plans too far out. I tend to be a little spontaneous and maybe a bit impulsive, though that has diminished a bit as I get older I think.
From our FIRST anniversary, my dear wife started booking us on long weekends away. At first - I was thinking - blech... now we are going to HAVE to do this every year, like it or not.
'like it or not'. funny.
20 years later - I have to admire her wisdom and have told her so. We 'alternate' years (she plans one year, me the next) and it is always a secret where we are going for the other until we get in the car. Nothing crazy or extravagant - just a long weekend at a bed and breakfast, just the 2 of us somewhere within about 100 miles or so of home. We pretty much pick places at random and have never been dissappointed - and have found tons of places we now love and never would have seen otherwise.
It has been, without a doubt,the single best thing we have ever done as a couple We hike a bit, see some sights, go out for dinner & drinks, shop a bit maybe, whatever. Just the two of us - and the bedroom is always scorching hot - its funny, she likes to dress up in lingerie which she never does otherwise. Its sort of a reminder of what it was like when we were dating.
Has anyone else sort of fallen into a similar sort of 'get away' routine?
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We always watch our video. We usually get chinese/wine.... Now our 4 kids love to watch it too and ask about relatives and/or make fun of our big 80's hair and music....I never get tired of it. I could watch it every day...
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
We always take a 7 day cruise to the western Carrib. I arrange and organize it. I get up early every day of the cruise go eat breakfast while she sleeps and then bring her back Breakfast in bed. I try to arrange excursions that would appeal to her like swimming with the dolphins or whatever. try to arrange everything so she has a week to just enjoy and de-stress. The only thing she is responsible for is telling what to wear (funny how once I got married I completely lost the ability to dress myself) and keeping my little buddy happy.
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
For the 1st 19 yrs of our marraige....we'd get off alone to a fancy restaurant- I was thrilled with Red Lobster, catch a movie & make love that night, we rarely did the cards/flowers thing... I remember about 7 yrs ago ...laying in bed together, the radio was on.... "I could not ask for More" started playing... That just spoke how we were feeling, so thankful for all we had, I think I started tearing up...just that it came on our Anniversary somehow. That became our song. And every so many yrs, we'll get out our Wedding video.
.... But starting a few yrs ago, I got more Creative.... time to pamper us, go all out, money no object....getting off on our own special adventures, a couple nights away even ....we were always concentrating on the family....the kids...and neglecting "US". I vowed no more. Life is too short....Live a little.
Although we don't go on our Anniversary DAY or week, we do consider it our Anniversary /celebrations of our marriage together.
Originally I wanted to go here on our HoneyMoon but I was too darn cheap (yes that is the truth).... so now we was going to make up for it ! This was the most Romantic setting...loved this ROOM......I had my ipod filled with love songs playing lightly 24/7 , we had our own heart shaped pool behind closed doors, a champainge glass hot tub... we so overloaded that thing with bubbles , they were dripping onto the floor below. Lots of laughter, had our own private photo shoot.
Also had a round bed, mirrors on the ceiling with lit up constellations We enjoyed that atmosphere so very much....we booked it for the next year on another property of theirs, same room.
They also had ice skating, horse back riding, speed boats, paddle boats, bike riding, hiking trails, the food was amazing- we got to sit with other couples & "talk about marraige" , also had night club entertainment, sports activities & a friendly onsite Photographer . Champagne Tower, Glass Tub, Hotel Room Jacuzzi, Heart Shaped Tub
...we especially love Country get aways -to go hiking hand in hand, view the beauty of nature, waterfalls , natural reserves, caves . Last year we got a secluded cabin in the woods, our cell phone didn't even have reception -had our own private hot tub on the porch where the birds were whisteling & only wildlife could see. We ran into people from all over the world in this small hick town. It was a pleasant surprise, even if our GPS went out & we got lost for a short time.... Our "bug man" gave us that tip.
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Depends on what you like. Charleston SC is a beautiful city with a lot of history and southern charm it has a lot of potential. Also the blue ridge parkway from Boone NC south is really beautiful. accommodation would have to be searched for on the net. When we used to go we stayed at the family's vac home so I don't know what all is there in the way of accommodations.
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
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Originally Posted by Stonewall
We always take a 7 day cruise to the western Carrib. I arrange and organize it. I get up early every day of the cruise go eat breakfast while she sleeps and then bring her back Breakfast in bed. I try to arrange excursions that would appeal to her like swimming with the dolphins or whatever. try to arrange everything so she has a week to just enjoy and de-stress. The only thing she is responsible for is telling what to wear (funny how once I got married I completely lost the ability to dress myself) and keeping my little buddy happy.
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
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Originally Posted by Stonewall
We always take a 7 day cruise to the western Carrib. I arrange and organize it. I get up early every day of the cruise go eat breakfast while she sleeps and then bring her back Breakfast in bed. I try to arrange excursions that would appeal to her like swimming with the dolphins or whatever. try to arrange everything so she has a week to just enjoy and de-stress. The only thing she is responsible for is telling what to wear (funny how once I got married I completely lost the ability to dress myself) and keeping my little buddy happy.
It has become a tradition.
My husband can't dress himself for the life of him either, but if I was waiting for him to arrange a vacation, we'd never leave the house...that simply will never happen. I am not complaining though, cause I love to search for places anyway, making phone calls, getting details, all up my alley. That would be drudgery to him.
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
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Originally Posted by SimplyAmorous
My husband can't dress himself for the life of him either, but if I was waiting for him to arrange a vacation, we'd never leave the house...that simply will never happen. I am not complaining though, cause I love to search for places anyway, making phone calls, getting details, all up my alley. That would be drudgery to him.
It was a lot of fun. We did it in Roatan Honduras. We have also done scuba at Cozumel and Grand Caymen, speed boats at costa maya, Mayan ruins by horse back somewhere in Mexico, parasailing in Grand Caymen. We love cruising. We've been on 14 cruises so far.
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
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Originally Posted by Stonewall
It was a lot of fun. We did it in Roatan Honduras. We have also done scuba at Cozumel and Grand Caymen, speed boats at costa maya, Mayan ruins by horse back somewhere in Mexico, parasailing in Grand Caymen. We love cruising. We've been on 14 cruises so far.
Wow, you know how to live it up ....14 Cruises ! Nice . Never been on a Cruise.... maybe someday when the kids are gone. I've heard they are like a TOWN on that boat, you wouldn't even know you are at sea. Many exciting memories you both have to look back upon, you are really LIVING life and enjoying every moment.
Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries?
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Originally Posted by SimplyAmorous
Wow, you know how to live it up ....14 Cruises ! Nice . Never been on a Cruise.... maybe someday when the kids are gone. I've heard they are like a TOWN on that boat, you wouldn't even know you are at sea. Many exciting memories you both have to look back upon, you are really LIVING life and enjoying every moment.
We have become somewhat experts at it SA! Its the one vacation we can take where no one can find us. Its the only time that its really just me and her.
I love it to no end. I love that short time of being the center of her universe and no one calling and wanting something from her. everyone wants something from her all the time. It seems like we cant even have a conversation without the phone ringing.
Its not her fault. She is such a good hearted personl she just helps so many people. I relish those days when no one can reach her.
I know that sounds selfish but everyone else can fend for themselves those few days.
If you ever decide to pull the trigger on a cruise and need some advice; shoot me a PM!
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I love this topic....It represents one of the happiest time in my life...I am sure if my husband was sitting next to me he would agree....It was like completing the finishing touch to the dream that I had....
Eight years ago we had the most wonderful anniversary we have ever had...We have been to Orlando/Busch Gardens about three times prior to this trip...Yet, I always wanted to stay at the Contemporary Hotel inside of the Park...Years ago I had called them on it, but it was like $325 a night and that wasn't even inside the big A frame deal....This time I knew that I was going to do it...Mind you I did all this without telling my husband...I knew he would love it for a surprise (or was it mine) and I wanted to do it and after all it was our anniversary.... Being in this type of determination, I made a reservation for four nights to stay on the 12th or Concierge floor...The room cost $575 a night plus tax, plus $25 a day to park our car in the preferred parking, but, oh how it was worth it....This anniversary was so wonderful that I am going to write it up....Never has anything been as unplanned, yet fit together with such perfection, as those four days of our life....I will always remember them with a smile....
Our four day stay was perfect...With the monorail coming right into the lobby there was no need for traveling....Speciality hot and cold food was always available during the mealtime hours...Delicious snacks during other times...This was near the elevator so you just had to go down the corridor to get it...Seeing I have a height problem, believe me I hugged the side near the doors when we went.....Drinks were furnished after 5...Food came from The Floridian as well as Polynesian...I am sure the Contemporary added to it...It was the most wonderful time that we ever had....Seeing I had reserved the room overlooking the Magic Kingdom Park, we were able to lay in bed and watch the fireworks every night...It had a balcony and you could hear the music from the park and watch the boats from the Floridian letting their guests off at the dock all day and night....At nighttime with the Castle lit up it did take on the look of the Magic Kingdom...It was like we were fulfilling a promise to each other and saying "hey, we made it".....and believe me, we did....
We rented electric handicap carts each day so that we could cover a lot of ground...Had to be there early enough to get them...Went everywhere...We had dinner one night at the Floridian and also ate at Fulton's Crab Boat....On a real hot day we stood under the water sprinklers with the kids....They didn't mind, so why not.......Took the monorail to Epcot and the bus to Animal Kingdom....There a darling young woman who was engaged gave me the most wonderful memories to cherish...And believe me, I do....I remember her well as I am sure she also remembers me....It was special....
Never, but never can this magic time that we had ever be recreated....As close as we were before we went there, we were closer when we left....Thanks for this thread....It warms my heart....Take care....
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Re: How do you celebrate your wedding anniversaries? 
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