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Old 02-07-2012, 08:32 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I have been wondering how successful couples celebrate their wedding anniversaries year after year. Who plans and organizes it you or your spouse? Which year was your favourite celebration and how was it?

I and hubby had a disagreement over this lately for me it doesnt have to be expensive to be wonderful but for him he wouldn't feel good if doesn't spend enough $$. Love to hear from all.
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My wife and I got married between Xmas and New Years 28 yrs ago
after coming back from a snow skiing trip. Maybe I getting old
but I always rent a cabin every year and take the family snow skiing.
Wife and daugthers really enjoy it. Multi-day trip.

She doesn't want me to spend a lot of money on her due to the trip so
I just give her a rose and a card with something written on it.
We celebrate with the daughters at dinner that night.
Normally I will tell a different story about one of our many dates in which I fell in love.
Daughters love hearing them and wife gets that twinkle in her eye and gives me a big kiss and hug.
Awesome! This is romantic esp the "story" love it
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On my 25th anniversary, I had probably the only original, good romantic idea I've ever had. All we did was dinner, but it was my gift that touched my wife.

I bought 25 roses. There was a separate little card on each of the roses. On each of the cards, I listed the year, and one thing that made that year memorable. This included the years that each of our children was born (Great years), and the years that each of her parents died (sad events are part of life, too). In the big card that I bought with it, I placed 25 more of the little cards like were on the roses, but I left them blank. In the big card itself, I thanked her for the best 25 years of my life, and told her I was looking forward to the next 25 years with her and whatever those years may bring.

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On my 25th anniversary, I had probably the only original, good romantic idea I've ever had. All we did was dinner, but it was my gift that touched my wife.

I bought 25 roses. There was a separate little card on each of the roses. On each of the cards, I listed the year, and one thing that made that year memorable. This included the years that each of our children was born (Great years), and the years that each of her parents died (sad events are part of life, too). In the big card that I bought with it, I placed 25 more of the little cards like were on the roses, but I left them blank. In the big card itself, I thanked her for the best 25 years of my life, and told her I was looking forward to the next 25 years with her and whatever those years may bring.
This is sooo beautiful, you have given me a great idea to use one day....thank you! I absolutely like the idea that you have included the sad events too...I am sure you will have many more wonderful years to come
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Together 17 years. Each anniversary celebration is different as it depends on where we're at that year and how the finances are looking etc. Anniversaries have varied from a nice dinner out and seeing a show, to setting up our dining room like a restaurant and enjoying an indulgent night at home. We've kept it simple with watching the sunset together and other times more extravagant with overnight stays. It really varies.

Our next anniversary is fast approaching. Hubs told me the other night that he'd planned on taking the day off work with me but before he could book it, a big team meeting thingy came up. He was really disappointed. So I then told him the idea I'd already come up with for this year. I was hesitating about whether to surprise him or not. Where we live has an old-school theme park that stays open late that particular night. We haven't been there before and I thought it might be good old fashioned fun! I had some doubts because finances are tight and it's pricey to go. I filled hubs in on my idea and asked what he thought. He LOVED this idea!! And I think it made him feel relieved about having to be at work, to know that we had this fun night lined up. It's not common for us to take a day off for our anniversary so I wasn't expecting that anyway. I'd planned our celebration/date night around work hours. The plan is to grab a casual bite to eat, watch the sunset, then head on into the theme park.

We usually plan our anniversary together, but again, it varies. If one of us happens to have an idea, we'll take the lead for that year.

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Together 17 years. Each anniversary celebration is different as it depends on where we're at that year and how the finances are looking etc. Anniversaries have varied from a nice dinner out and seeing a show, to setting up our dining room like a restaurant and enjoying an indulgent night at home. We've kept it simple with watching the sunset together and other times more extravagant with overnight stays. It really varies.

Our next anniversary is fast approaching. Hubs told me the other night that he'd planned on taking the day off work with me but before he could book it, a big team meeting thingy came up. He was really disappointed. So I then told him the idea I'd already come up with for this year. I was hesitating about whether to surprise him or not. Where we live has an old-school theme park that stays open late that particular night. We haven't been there before and I thought it might be good old fashioned fun! I had some doubts because finances are tight and it's pricey to go. I filled hubs in on my idea and asked what he thought. He LOVED this idea!! And I think it made him feel relieved about having to be at work, to know that we had this fun night lined up. It's not common for us to take a day off for our anniversary so I wasn't expecting that anyway. I'd planned our celebration/date night around work hours. The plan is to grab a casual bite to eat, watch the sunset, then head on into the theme park.

We usually plan our anniversary together, but again, it varies. If one of us happens to have an idea, we'll take the lead for that year.

Just enjoy yourselves, whatever happens, and remember you're celebrating your relationship
Thanks for sharing! Our anniversary just passed and I wasn't very happy as nothing went as we planned, the kids were unusually cranky, H had to work longer that day and even a simple dinner we had planned had to be cancelled. Even though we are great throughout the year we seem to have a little difference in expectations when it comes to anniversaries and that's why I wanted to know how other couples go about celebrating that day. He wanted to celebrated it 2 weeks later as he can spend more time and money and I wanted it on that day even if its simple. Well, like you said, after all we are celebrating our relationship and it would defeat the purpose to argue over it. I kinda feel guilty for going to bed complaining that night.
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Unfortunately, last year when he was supposed to be making an effort after being discovered cheating and lying, he forgot the anniversary
(#1) and planned nothing special even though he was deployed and had time to write a letter or had friends he could have asked to do something for me on my end (access to phone, email...non-combat deployment), then accused me of forgetting too - I had not but not being the cheater did not feel like it was appropriate to grovel or to lie and say lovely things to him so soon after discovery... This year (#2) when he called me to wish me a happy anniversary, I reminded him of the tragedy of our marriage under false pretenses (lying about girlfriend all along, substantially) and what he did to me the night before our wedding, then I hung up on him and sent him an email not to contact me again.
There will not be a #3.
I really wish it would have been different. I loved him until it was obviously stupid and ridiculous, and publicly so, humiliating, to do so.
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Sometimes we wil go out to eat alone. Most of the time we make a special dinner at home and spend it with the kids. We are not big on going out, we'd prefer cooking our own meals.

Honestly, I have a very hard time thinking about what goes on behind those kitchen doors, quality of food, freshness of food, hygiene of workers, ect.... It's always bothered me and also the calorie content of the meal itself and the way it was prepared.

I'm much happier steaming my own crab legs on the stove and throwing a good cut steak on the BBQ vs someone cooking for me. Then the kids can enjoy and see how important it is to enjoy our special day. We do not exchange gifts on this day. A few times my husband has boughten me really nice things, but I'd rather use our money on something we need.
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Sometimes we wil go out to eat alone. Most of the time we make a special dinner at home and spend it with the kids. We are not big on going out, we'd prefer cooking our own meals.

Honestly, I have a very hard time thinking about what goes on behind those kitchen doors, quality of food, freshness of food, hygiene of workers, ect.... It's always bothered me and also the calorie content of the meal itself and the way it was prepared.

I'm much happier steaming my own crab legs on the stove and throwing a good cut steak on the BBQ vs someone cooking for me. Then the kids can enjoy and see how important it is to enjoy our special day. We do not exchange gifts on this day. A few times my husband has boughten me really nice things, but I'd rather use our money on something we need.
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Thanks for sharing, I am sorry that your hurting. wow...seems like you are a great cook! My H loves when I cook specially for him, there were couple of anniversaries I cooked special dinner.
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We don't go away every year, sometimes we both agree that we need to save the money so we just have a date night/weekend but stay home still.

But thru the years when we occasionally go away, we've gone to the Adirondacks in NY and hiked mountains, or went up to Maine and did shopping, and sometimes we stay at a Bed & Breakfast for a weekend too.
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Today is our 22nd anniversary.
It's middle of summer here and just like back in 1990 it's hot and humid and the crickets/cicadas are chirping madly (you can hear them on our wedding video).

We always take the day off together...we're both self employed.

This year we're going kayaking/fishing. We live in a lovely coastal area with great fishing. A short paddle 10-15mins will get us somewhere very quiet and peaceful.

We'll fish for a while then find a beach somewhere for some lunch and no doubt some 'afternoon delight'.

Tonight, hopefully, we'll have fresh snapper for dinner with our boys and then I'll make them all watch the wedding video... they'll object at first, but secretly I reckon they enjoy it....
laughing at dad's huge moustache and mum's big 80's/90's blonde hairdo.

Saturday we're going out for dinner at our favourite resturant.

Looking forward to it all.
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Happy Anniversary waiwera!!!!!!!

Our 11th is in April, and we are going to Hawaii. Not our typical anniversary let me tell you though! Our last trip was ten years ago for our first, and we've been saving up for this one since then. We actually started celebrating anniversaries before we were married - we celebrated the day we met Pretty much every year we do something similar - we go away to the mountains, get a nice room somewhere, and just do whatever we want together. We like to get a place where we can cook for ourselves too.

We aren't huge on gifts, although a couple of years we did get ourselves something that had to do with the year (eg leather coats for our third, plane tix to Cuba for our first)
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It'll be 12 years this Spring for us. Before the kids, we generally went out to dinner ourselves. Although on our second anniversary we went to Vegas.
The past few years, we get a babysitter to stay the night with the kids, and we stay over downtown, have a nice dinner before and walk around the shops, then the next morning some more hanging out or staying in watching movies in the hotel.
I generally plan everything, as my wife is very pragmatic and not very romantic.
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Thanks for sharing! Our anniversary just passed and I wasn't very happy as nothing went as we planned, the kids were unusually cranky, H had to work longer that day and even a simple dinner we had planned had to be cancelled. Even though we are great throughout the year we seem to have a little difference in expectations when it comes to anniversaries and that's why I wanted to know how other couples go about celebrating that day. He wanted to celebrated it 2 weeks later as he can spend more time and money and I wanted it on that day even if its simple. Well, like you said, after all we are celebrating our relationship and it would defeat the purpose to argue over it. I kinda feel guilty for going to bed complaining that night.
I can understand that you wanted to celebrate on the date - even if that meant doing something simple.

On the other hand, maybe it's nice that he wanted to wait to have (in his way) a "proper" celebration.

I don't know if that 2 week time frame has passed but I wonder if you could both celebrate the next 2 weeks leading up to how he'd like to celebrate. Maybe something each day until then. Leave love notes, or whatever it is ...maybe this year's anniversary gets the whole month instead of just one date?
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Today is our 22nd anniversary.
It's middle of summer here and just like back in 1990 it's hot and humid and the crickets/cicadas are chirping madly (you can hear them on our wedding video).

We always take the day off together...we're both self employed.

This year we're going kayaking/fishing. We live in a lovely coastal area with great fishing. A short paddle 10-15mins will get us somewhere very quiet and peaceful.

We'll fish for a while then find a beach somewhere for some lunch and no doubt some 'afternoon delight'.

Tonight, hopefully, we'll have fresh snapper for dinner with our boys and then I'll make them all watch the wedding video... they'll object at first, but secretly I reckon they enjoy it....
laughing at dad's huge moustache and mum's big 80's/90's blonde hairdo.

Saturday we're going out for dinner at our favourite resturant.

Looking forward to it all.
Happy Anniversary to you
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