romantic_guy

Even though we are opposite in 4 out of the 5 Myers/Briggs types we have the same interests and enjoy doing the same things together. I know that does not work for everyone. It is even more amazing considering the fact that we got married so young (16 & 17...she was pregnant) and that our interests are so eclectic. For instance, last week we went to DC to see the cherry blossoms (she looked so hot in her size 4 shorts...but I digress). That evening we went to see Bela Fleck and the Flecktones. Two days later we went to a classical recital. We never have to drag the other along to do anything...except for grocery shopping. We kinda drag each other along because we both hate it! When we are not at work, most of the time we are together.

Like I said, it works for us and neither of us would have it any other way.

I know you said one thing...but...the other thing is...the sex is AWESOME!

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anotherguy

Wow, just 'one' thing?

Hm. Respect and Sex are pretty high on the success list for us, as is sharing experiences, but Acceptance I think is big too.

Accepting the other for who they are, taking joy in seeing them happy, and not sweating the little things they do that could make you nuts.
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Jeff/BC

Both of us see "love" as a giving word, not a taking word. We are both in it to see how wonderful we can make our partner's life, not how wonderful they can make ours.

Honestly though, my own assessment of what makes it work... "chemistry"... is that it is so vastly complex as to be akin to magic. I think of myself as an avid student of humans yet that area I have in my head as "virtually totally inscrutable".

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shakirah

Being committed and trust to each other will help to make the relationship more lasting.

Stonewall

What she said!

Me, Eastcoastgirl / SA and SAs husband absolutely have to live in a parallel universe!

SimplyAmorous

I know Stonewall....still pleasantly amazes me.

Your posts on this forum always brightens my day..... I was a little down the other day (doesn't happen often but I have my moments)...just felt a little lost .......like where do I belong, why do I keep coming back here.....then I came across one of your posts....it cheered me right up, I smiled from ear to ear .....blew those little insecurities out the window....and I felt good again.

After all, I said to myself... Stonewall is still posting !

I just asked my husband ....what he would say is the 1 thing..

His answer >>>>> Both wanting the same things in life.

Very simple & basic... but so true!

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Thewife

There is no one secret ingredient for us.....

we promised each other that we will never say the word "divorce" no matter how angry we are, marriage is not an option its a life long commitment....thats the mentality we had when we decided to marry.

Life will not be perfect all the time but there are perfect moments that we capture in our hearts and cherish them

we continue to date till today

Give and you will be given

respect

planning for our old age.

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I think- She is "my" wife and
she thinks- I am "his" wife.

Stonewall

I'm glad I could lift your mood on a bad day.

I think it also helps that me and east coast girl still have the hots for each other. She says I still give her butterflys whenever we kiss. I'm just like a puppy. If you tell me something like that I wag my tail even harder.

SimplyAmorous

Oh what it is worth.....to still have the passions stirring in full swing...like this old song ...

Orleans - Still The One

....I get all excited when this comes on the radio, we turn it up & sing it together.

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heartsbeating

If I had to say just one thing?

It would be getting out of my own selfish mindset and stand point.

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Zab

For us its been commitment,respect for one onother and open communication- making sure that we dont go to sleep with one problem or misunderstanding unsolved & having a good lough together. Then love will keep growing.

rigcol

Communication. Easier said than done when you're dealing with young kids but we ensure that we create time for us to talk about anything and everything. Along with communication the ability to say I'm sorry is huge ... I have found that the preponderance of our arguments ultimately were based on one of us trying to be 'right'

CraigW

I couldn't pick one thing.
We both had the same goals and values from the onset so we were both walking on the same path.
For us
Its knowing when to hold your ground and when to take a back seat.
Its knowing when to let things go or to discuss them.
Its knowing when to give more and when to give less.

Marriage is difficult but with us, its basically a balancing act. With adjustments made from one area to the other to keep us going forward. If neglected it tilts to one side and falls.