What is the one thing that....

LemonLime · 03-22-2012, 10:22 PM

has made your marriage so successful and happy and long lasting?

Mavash. · 03-23-2012, 09:02 PM

Both being committed to making it successful, happy and long lasting.

Takes 2 to make it work. Lacking that? You don't stand a chance.

Coffee Amore · 03-23-2012, 09:32 PM

For us it would be a solid foundation of love and affection, built on honesty and intimacy.

SimplyAmorous · 03-24-2012, 01:24 AM

Each others vulnerabilty in heatfelt communication. Neither gets overly offended by our humanness / weak moments .....we strive to be understanding & forgiving , we are validating, we are both good listeners... It helps we have the same love languages in the same order..... We are both the Hopeless Romantic type.

Darn it is hard to name 1 thing!

growtogether · 03-25-2012, 03:51 PM

No communication, no relationship.

Entropy3000 · 03-25-2012, 03:58 PM

I made the right choice 35 years ago.

We have had our ups and downs. Making the marriage the number one priority over work, friends and children is key. I learned later than I should have had better boundaries.

So my wife and I give His Needs Her Needs as a wedding gift.

www.marriedmansexlife.com has been incredibly helpful to me.

LovesHerMan · 03-25-2012, 03:59 PM

Good communication. That is such a cliche, but it means no pouting after an argument, telling each other when we resent something, forgiving each other, swallowing our pride when it is easier to nurse grudges, fighting fairly with no name calling, and telling each other that we cherish our life together. We are both words of affirmation people, and it is easy for us to meet that need that we both have.

heavensangel · 03-25-2012, 04:35 PM

Communication, communication, communication.

Both parties being able to take 'self' out of the equation and put 110% into doing whatever it takes to make the other happy. Knowing each others weaknesses and loving them unconditionally, in-spite of them.

Being forgiving - this one is hardest for me; H knows it and helps me through it.

okeydokie · 03-26-2012, 08:52 AM

staying apart alot with kids activities, seriously. it keeps me away from the things i resent (mainly her hoarding) and keeps the lack of intimacy off my mind. im sure she could list some benefits as well

OldGirl · 03-26-2012, 09:01 AM

Low expectations.

Standing_Firm · 03-26-2012, 09:05 AM

Comminication (I am getting better) and hard work. Takes two to make it, one to break it!
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LovesHerMan · 03-26-2012, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by OldGirl

Low expectations.

OldGirl · 03-26-2012, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by *Dean*

Really?

I would have never gotten married or continued dating someone
if I had low expectations of them.

Low expectations sounds like your a happy go lucky person.

I didn't have low expectations when I was dating and married him. I had to lower my expectations as time went on because they were unrealistically high.

angelpixie · 03-26-2012, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyFrogFlyAway

He get fourteen bj's a day.

I make meatloaf once a month.

No wifely nagging.

Seriously, one thing? We focus on putting each other's needs before our own. It all cycles out and there's peace.

How did you have time to make meatloaf?!

I've always thought the same about putting each other first, and that will leave two happy people with their needs met and feeling cared about. And I still do believe that.

flnative · 03-26-2012, 04:37 PM

We didn't always have communication and didn't always have lots of sex. Oddly at 19 years and 3 kids we have lots of both.

What got us through the lean years was putting each other first and respect for each other. Has to go both ways or it won't work....