I everyone. I have been lurking around the boards for many months and decided last night with my husband to join and share with all of you. Hoping to enrich my marriage and anyone elses that could benefit from our years of marriage.
I am a 38 yrs old and DH is 42, we have had 16 wonderful years together. With 14 being married. I would call our marriage a success not only because of the length of time but the leval of happiness we have with each other and the love that is still present each day.
While we have had the "normal" arguments over the years that every couple has been through. We have also faced great struggles with addiction to drugs as well. This put a huge strain on our marriage for many years. But even through that, we remained devoted to each other. I was patient and understanding "most
days" with his recovery process. In the end addiction is a lifetime struggle that you can never let your gaurd down about, but we have came out the "sober" end with renewed love from it.
My Dh has been patient with me as well when it comes to our sex life. While he has always had a high drive, I have been some what low the whole marriage. As the years have passed on we have discovered that having no secrets, and telling your partner all your desires is the key to having great sex for this long. While he still gets frustrated when we go more than a week without sex, we just discuss the matter openly with each other and try to make a effort to put the spark back if it starts to fade.
We have instituted "date night" again, and even when we don't have a baby sitter we still have our date. We just keep our son occupied in his room, and tell him mommy and daddy need alone time. We sit and talk, eat dinner and spend romantic time together.
I think the key to our marriage is open communication, great sex with no inhibitions and the strength that God is always in our relationship.
Thanks for letting me tell my story!