What do wifes "NEED" from their husbands not "WANT"

Rasbuten66 · 06-29-2012, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by lovesherman

I need to be known. To feel that another human being sees the real me, and is willing to share life's challenges and joys with me.

I agree!!!
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Rasbuten66 · 06-29-2012, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by lamaga

Rasbuten, this is what we call a zombie thread, in that it was started long ago. I'd encourage you to share your story on a new thread, that way more people will read it. And welcome!

Thank you, I will do that
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livelaughlovenow · 07-02-2012, 07:47 PM

Conversation, intimacy, emotional connection -share feelings-, leadership, sex and love making and there is a difference in the two, affection, friendship, affection and compliments, but most of all, each of these things needs to be with intensity, with feeling, we can tell when something is done out of duty, just like you men say, and it sucks, we can tell when you say, you look nice, versus, wow is that a new dress, you look hot! kwim?

stepfordwife · 07-16-2012, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by DeniseK

Each of us needs something different. Some women are more independent. Some women need to feel needed. And some of us just need to feel like we are the most important thing to you. Remember that the husband is. usually the leader. Any family unit runs better if the leader is considerate of all the members. I'm not saying you are the ultimate boss...just the top dog on the responsibility chain....think of the wife as the other half of you. How do you treat yourself? Do you go long peroids without talking to yourself? Do you ignore your own feelings? Do say negative things to yourself? Do you spend lots of time doing things that hurt yourself? Would you starve yourself? Silly Questions, but if your wife is supposed to be your other half....just treat her like she is. I think you might find that her needs will be met and so will yours.

Woah, definately right on.

Nomads · 11-17-2012, 08:23 PM

Hmmm, what do I need from my man? "want" indeed over the top isn't?

"I need my man to treat and talk to me respectfully"
"I need intimate time with my man (physically/emotionally)"

"I need my man to be honest"
"I need my man to be responsible"
"I need my man to be the leader of the house (I refuse wearing the pant of the house, no matter how educated and how much money I have)"
"I need my man to have humor (at least laughing when I'm making fun of him)"

"I need my man to understand and learn" (especially where I'm coming from etc. knowing we are mix marriage couple) so we can grow old together.
"good conversation/communication"

The million dollar question is my man already fulfill my need?

, mannnnnn!!!!!

bethshek · 11-25-2012, 08:30 PM

One thing that a wife need from their husband is a "total acceptance of who she is". I believe that relationship is a process and it takes time, space, and joint cooperation to make your marriage worked. There will be times for every season under the sun. There will be times of failures and times of success. However, it takes both of them to stand in times of pain ad celebrate together in times of joy. There will be a place of unselfish ambition and as both the husband and the wife will grow together and stand inspite of difficulties, they can make things happen. Every day is a new day i marriage, new ways to make your partner feel the importance, love and care. Make him or her cheer up every day with the few words of love and thoughts of encouragement in your door post and send out cards showing your love and care.

s1979j · 12-27-2012, 04:29 PM

This is an awesome thread to look through for the female points of view. I only wish I had seen something like this before I had gone through the issues I did with my wife. Its really simple stuff that a guy can do.

Long story short, I was failing to give my wife these needs and now we are on the brink of calling it quits (though heading somewhat back in the right direction). It hurts to see that I did all that to her now. I have a great belief in myself to be that rock for her and to ultimately get to the place we were and even better than before, but it seems like such a long road.

DCMarriageCounselor · 01-06-2013, 06:51 AM

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Originally Posted by marina72

snow..

mostly I just need him to love me, totally and completely.

I have found that he doesn't always show me , in the ways I listed above, or in the ways, that I would expect he should/would, or can...

And that's okay, as long as I know he loves me. He does do the things mentioned above, sometimes... so I guess that is good enough for me. The point is, he tries.

:-)

Love your post Marina. Posting to my FB wall.

Ostera · 01-15-2013, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by themrs

I need my husband to make me feel secure financially and emotionally. I know he won't always succeed at providing me the nicest things, but that's not as important to me as seeing he is trying to get them and knowing that he believes I deserve them.

On the surface your comment seems rather shallow.. From what I gather you want 'things' from him.. gold digger comes to mind. Sorry just being honest... You want him for the 'things' he can give you. Sad