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Re: What do wifes "NEED" from their husbands not "WANT"
snow..
I can't tell you what all wives need, but I can tell you what I need from my hubby.
I need him to really listen to me, when I need to talk to him, and to be interested in me, as a person, not just a wife or woman.
I need him to make me feel protected, secure, not just physical protection, but protect my heart also.
I need sex, sometimes just nasty, kinky sex,,, sometimes loving, close, true spirtual connection sex. Not every day mind you, but to me it's an important part of marriage.
I need him to remember my birthday and our anniversary, without having to be to told or reminded. This is mostly just because I need to know that I'm important enough for him to remember special days like that. He's forgotten before, and of course I didn't ride him too hard, but it'd be nice if he did remember that! lol
mostly I just need him to love me, totally and completely.
I have found that he doesn't always show me , in the ways I listed above, or in the ways, that I would expect he should/would, or can...
And that's okay, as long as I know he loves me. He does do the things mentioned above, sometimes... so I guess that is good enough for me. The point is, he tries.
Re: What do wifes "NEED" from their husbands not "WANT"
I don't need anything from my husband to make me feel happy or sexy, or anything else. I do need him to be an adult, however, someone who takes responsibility for his own actions and his own happiness. He cannot see me or treat me like his mother.
I do need him to be trustworthy and dependable, however, especially in a crisis. He can fall apart later, when the crisis has passd (just like I might). But falling apart during a crisis, when I have someone else to take care of? That's a deal breaker for me.
Re: What do wifes "NEED" from their husbands not "WANT"
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Originally Posted by sisters359
I don't need anything from my husband to make me feel happy or sexy, or anything else. I do need him to be an adult, however, someone who takes responsibility for his own actions and his own happiness. He cannot see me or treat me like his mother.
I do need him to be trustworthy and dependable, however, especially in a crisis. He can fall apart later, when the crisis has passd (just like I might). But falling apart during a crisis, when I have someone else to take care of? That's a deal breaker for me.
I get all the of this, but what you said is a powerful reminder for us men. Thank you.
Among other things, this reminds me to stay strong and to not negatively respond to her fussiness when the kids get her stressed out.
Re: What do wifes "NEED" from their husbands not "WANT"
Each of us needs something different. Some women are more independent. Some women need to feel needed. And some of us just need to feel like we are the most important thing to you. Remember that the husband is usually the leader. Any family unit runs better if the leader is considerate of all the members. I'm not saying you are the ultimate boss...just the top dog on the responsibility chain....think of the wife as the other half of you. How do you treat yourself? Do you go long peroids without talking to yourself? Do you ignore your own feelings? Do say negative things to yourself? Do you spend lots of time doing things that hurt yourself? Would you starve yourself? Silly Questions, but if your wife is supposed to be your other half....just treat her like she is. I think you might find that her needs will be met and so will yours.
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