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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 10-12-2012, 08:14 AM Thread Starter
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Re: Reconciliation after separation? Is it possible?

I think so. I hope that that is the case. ANd maybe he'll see we have something worth fighting for.

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Re: Reconciliation after separation? Is it possible?

I'm in the same situations as you now. How did it go for you guys? Did you reconcile?
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Hi I went through the same situation with my H. We have been arguing for about a year and needless to say it's been pretty rough. Along with the fighting our intimacy in the marriage went right out the door.

During this time I kept trying to make it work, I did a lot to try to make
Things turn around but they never did because he didn't want to. He told me that he was mentally checked out of the marriage and that all the fighting changed his feelings toward us. I still tried even after hearing and I think this is what lead me to where I am today. I tried to make a marriage work where my partner wanted out. He was literally one foot in one foot out the door. I don't believe there is anyone else I just think he wanted out as soon as it got rough.

We are currently separated for over a
Month, I moved out of the apartment and back in with my parents . I have talked to him 2x since, both times he told me he was happier than ever, he is doing great, he even learned to
Cook and do laundry on his
Own. I'm crushed that just by arguing he chose to let go of our MARRRIAGE

My advice to anyone is don't force your husband or wife to stay as it will only make you look weak and also push them away more. Let them
Want to be there for them self not because they feel guilty.

I hope we can be back together but I am slowly trying to move on with my
Life. He doesn't answer my calls, in party mode and even tells mutual friends how happy he is.
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Hi I went through the same situation with my H. We have been arguing for about a year and needless to say it's been pretty rough. Along with the fighting our intimacy in the marriage went right out the door.

During this time I kept trying to make it work, I did a lot to try to make
Things turn around but they never did because he didn't want to. He told me that he was mentally checked out of the marriage and that all the fighting changed his feelings toward us. I still tried even after hearing and I think this is what lead me to where I am today. I tried to make a marriage work where my partner wanted out. He was literally one foot in one foot out the door. I don't believe there is anyone else I just think he wanted out as soon as it got rough.

We are currently separated for over a
Month, I moved out of the apartment and back in with my parents . I have talked to him 2x since, both times he told me he was happier than ever, he is doing great, he even learned to
Cook and do laundry on his
Own. I'm crushed that just by arguing he chose to let go of our MARRRIAGE

My advice to anyone is don't force your husband or wife to stay as it will only make you look weak and also push them away more. Let them
Want to be there for them self not because they feel guilty.

I hope we can be back together but I am slowly trying to move on with my
Life. He doesn't answer my calls, in party mode and even tells mutual friends how happy he is.
You have a good head on your shoulders and are headed in the right direction. The fact that he said he is happier than ever is your sign that you two are over and done. His words ring cruel. Let the dirtball go and build a better life for yourself.
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Do you think arguing is enough to let a marriage go? I don't know if I'm messed up but I don't think so, I think hard times are what strengthen a relationship because you both grow ... I think my H just wanted an excuse to be out, he seems to really be liking the bachelor life but I'm pretty sure that will get old real quick. Yeah I'm sad but I'm happy he is happy, I think when you love someone you want what's best for them, I still have him in my prayers every night, but I
Chose to let go! I think letting go is the only way I will ever be able to move forward.

I have to admit I have both good and bad days, I can't really
Sleep well and don't really feel
Like doing much. This was someone I was with for over 10 years of my
Life, it's so hard now being alone especially over the holidays, but I guess in sense it was like I was alone when I was with him physically as he was checked out! How can people just give up
On love and family so easily?

Thanks for this forum because just writing these words is therapeutic
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