Re: how do i stop the fighting
I was really surprised by reading your words!! I have the very same situation!! No matter what the subject, I am always the catalyst for what is wrong, or the root of the issue.
My wife called me today to discuss something that was insulting to me. I kept quiet and just let her speak. She called me back an hour later to discuss it again. When I calmly expressed my view on the matter, she lashed out at me shredding my character, and personality. She brought up things that didn't even have to do with the conversation!
I didn't want to be verbally insulted any longer, so I just apologized for upsetting her, held my tongue, and politely ended the conversation. I don't want to talk to her for as long as I can hold out for. I am tired of the fighting and everything somehow ending up to be my fault.