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post #16 of 42 (permalink) Old 11-27-2012, 12:55 PM
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I love these kinds of stories - it gives hope.

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I feel no guilt posting this really , We have our issues as many do , but we find a way to fix things.. We try to never go to bed angry is one thing we do.. Don't get me wrong .. We have our bad times as well , but overall I do not regret anything..
We are like you Parrot_head....we try to never let the sun go down on our anger...(ya know a scripture says that ~ Ephesians 4:26).... I would say maybe 2-3 times in 23 yrs. I simply can't sleep if we are

We are both utterly miserable & worthless to anyone when we are at odds... but in it's own way...this is helpful...as it brings us together - so we'll deal with it, get it all out & find our "Peace" again. Everybody has times of conflict.
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We have our issues as many do , but we find a way to fix things..
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This is our mantra.
And we have been married for 17 years.
What we have together is the most important thing to both of us.

Congrats on your marriage, and congrats on your son's prospect in university.
He must be really making you guys really PROUD!

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We are both utterly miserable & worthless to anyone when we are at odds... but in it's own way...this is helpful...as it brings us together - so we'll deal with it, get it all out & find our "Peace" again. Everybody has times of conflict.
So are we! Sometimes it just makes me sick LOL, like we just need to get over ourselves. But no, if we have a deep enough disagreement (and the word is disagreement, because my wife never argues), and things don't feel settled with us, it throws both of us completely off. We walk around all in a funk, all butt hurt over not being on the same accord.

We're such dorks in love sometimes.
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If you have a successful marriage, we need you on these boards.
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So are we! Sometimes it just makes me sick LOL, like we just need to get over ourselves. But no, if we have a deep enough disagreement (and the word is disagreement, because my wife never argues), and things don't feel settled with us, it throws both of us completely off. We walk around all in a funk, all butt hurt over not being on the same accord.

We're such dorks in love sometimes.
Oh Jaquen, should I be surprised you & wife are similar ~ can't say I am ...


.... Even if I slam a door to get away from him, trying to act all angry in the moment..(I generally start these stupid conflicts, over something I might be worried about).... I generally can't stay away longer than 20 minutes & end up marching right back to him.... cause I am miserable.....I can see the corner of a on his face when I open the door..... even if he tries to hide it.... then I start smiling..(a softening started between us)...... I end up telling him ..."damn it, I'm so pathetic, I can't stay the hell away from you!!" (of course he likes this weakness in me)....he just eats that right up.... so we talk some more... we get it all out... then we're back in each others arms.... Storm over, the sun is shining again.


We've always been able to laugh about our fights ~ after the fact.

My husband thinks one of the biggest problems in marriages is when we are too stubborn to admit we are wrong. We both try to be humble here... even me.
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I have been awol for a while..

I want to add my wife has had OCD her whole life. She is petrifed of infection/disease . Not for herself , but the kids..
3 yrs ago one of our friends mentioned that her brother got HIV from possibly a blood transfusion many years ago . After My wife heard that , she shut down completely. The summer of 2010 was particularly bad as she would not leave the bedroom for weeks.

It was so bad one time that after my son had a haircut , she was thinking that "what if " the person cutting the hair had HIV , and somehow it go onto a cut on his head.. etc..etc..
That was when she completely shut down . The only way I could get her out was that she insisted he get an aids test..
So I said ok , after that it was like she was a new person. The problem was the next haircut .. the next dentist appointment .. you know what Im getting at..

I had to password the intenet because all she did was search what ifs all day..


It was the most difficult time of our marriage forsure.
We went to the doctor and after that episode it was treated..

She has now been medicated for over a year and she is completely a new person , no worries . No problems.
The only one was weight gain , she did tack on about 50 pounds in a very short while. If you search through my old posts spread on this message board , you will see mention of this . It still does not bother me as much as it does her . I still find her extremely sexy and attractive. She is the best thing that ever happened to me along with my 2 kids..

This post is here because although there is much goodness in our marriage , sometimes you have major bumps as well..

I also want to add , to both of us sex is very important. We are both HD , even though she is on SSRI meds.. I cant imagine what her drive would be if she was not.
When people say sex isn't that important, I believe it's not true.

This June 12th is our 20th anniversary , I cannot imagine myself with anyone else...ever
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This guys should be posting in this topic..

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Hi Everyone , Just want to put something out there that just came to me..

Every morning in bed , before I go to work , we embrace for a good 1/2 hour ..

We have been doing this as long as I can remember.. It feels really good when we are both naked .. But we do it either way ..

I can't remember the last time we didn't embrace before we got up from bed..

a small thing to ponder .. It will strengthen your bond IMO
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Hi Everyone , Just want to put something out there that just came to me..

Every morning in bed , before I go to work , we embrace for a good 1/2 hour ..

We have been doing this as long as I can remember.. It feels really good when we are both naked .. But we do it either way ..

I can't remember the last time we didn't embrace before we got up from bed..

a small thing to ponder .. It will strengthen your bond IMO
That's a good habit to get into ... my husband sets his alarm a little early just so he can jump back in bed & we hold each other - maybe 10 minutes longer.. I've always felt very loved by this...and have told him so...

A great way to start the day... lying in each others arms..

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Hi Everyone , Just want to put something out there that just came to me..

Every morning in bed , before I go to work , we embrace for a good 1/2 hour ..

We have been doing this as long as I can remember.. It feels really good when we are both naked .. But we do it either way ..

I can't remember the last time we didn't embrace before we got up from bed..

a small thing to ponder .. It will strengthen your bond IMO
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I haven't posted here because of respect for those others that don't have it so good. I mean, I see so many people that have broken marriages that it really bothers me. I've been through some tumultuous relationships before my wife, and I can relate to some of the problems others are having. I look back now, and think to myself, "If I would've married .... , I would likely be having some of these same problems." Thank God I didn't!

I was growing tired of searching for a woman in all the wrong places, so I joined a dating service, hoping that might help me find the "one". It was a service where you described yourself, what you were looking for, and what you were hoping to find in a date. Then, if they wanted to talk to you they could leave a voicemail for you return their call. After several dates that didn't lead anywhere, I had all but given up. I even cancelled my subscription to the dating service. Fortunately, they still kept me on file for a few weeks.

That's when it happened. A promising young lady liked what she heard and wanted me to call her if I was still looking. I called her back, and we talked and laughed on the phone for over 4 hours long distance. It was like we had known each other our whole lives! We decided to meet, and we were both like, "Wow!" We were immediately attracted to each other. Not only that, we could talk about any and everything because we felt so comfortable with each other. Needless to say, we communicated on a level that I had never thought was possible. We only dated for about 2-1/2 months before we were married. That's how sure we were!

We have now been married for a little over 19 years, with two daughters. We have been through some trying times, but we were both committed to making our marriage work. We're like two newlyweds that can't get enough of each other even after 19+ years. We hug each other, hold hands, kiss, and we say "I love you" no matter where we are. I have often been asked how do we do it after so many years. I always tell them because we are best friends who communicate, and actually DO love each other. If they persist, I tell them we have lots of really good sex.
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I haven't posted here because of respect for those others that don't have it so good. I mean, I see so many people that have broken marriages that it really bothers me. I've been through some tumultuous relationships before my wife, and I can relate to some of the problems others are having. I look back now, and think to myself, "If I would've married .... , I would likely be having some of these same problems." Thank God I didn't!

I was growing tired of searching for a woman in all the wrong places, so I joined a dating service, hoping that might help me find the "one". It was a service where you described yourself, what you were looking for, and what you were hoping to find in a date. Then, if they wanted to talk to you they could leave a voicemail for you return their call. After several dates that didn't lead anywhere, I had all but given up. I even cancelled my subscription to the dating service. Fortunately, they still kept me on file for a few weeks.

That's when it happened. A promising young lady liked what she heard and wanted me to call her if I was still looking. I called her back, and we talked and laughed on the phone for over 4 hours long distance. It was like we had known each other our whole lives! We decided to meet, and we were both like, "Wow!" We were immediately attracted to each other. Not only that, we could talk about any and everything because we felt so comfortable with each other. Needless to say, we communicated on a level that I had never thought was possible. We only dated for about 2-1/2 months before we were married. That's how sure we were!

We have now been married for a little over 19 years, with two daughters. We have been through some trying times, but we were both committed to making our marriage work. We're like two newlyweds that can't get enough of each other even after 19+ years. We hug each other, hold hands, kiss, and we say "I love you" no matter where we are. I have often been asked how do we do it after so many years. I always tell them because we are best friends who communicate, and actually DO love each other. If they persist, I tell them we have lots of really good sex.

What a great story , I am glad for you ..! Sex helps ..
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