I need a woman to SEE me... to care about me... for real. It's amazingly hard to find. Pretty much everyone, men and women alike, are just not interested in that sort of a deal.
I want a life partner who I can bank on to have my back and who is strong enough to shoulder the load when I have collapsed under it.
I want someone to think that because something makes me unhappy is sufficient reason in and of itself to move heaven and earth to change it... that my unhappiness is just NOT acceptable in general and especially not acceptable when it's her cause.
I want someone who understands that it doesn't matter if she wants what I want. What matters is that I
want it. It also doesn't matter if she understands why I want it.
I want a partner who wants a full contact marriage. I'm big on emotional intimacy... very big. My preferred orbit with my partner is zero distance... mentally, emotionally, and physically. Safety is.. well.. not how I play the love game. I'm more the "go large or go home" sort.
I want a partner who's first instinct is to say, "What can I
do to improve this situation not What can he
I want a partner who sees a relationship as a team sport not an adversarial competition. I do not believe I can "win" an argument with my wife anymore than if I was playing football I could "win" over my own team mate.
In short, I want a woman who's both able and willing to commit to the relationship as much as I am. Sex isn't on the list only because it's trivial in comparison. If I have the stuff on that list I'm pretty sure I'll be sexually satisfied
I guess I want a woman a lot like Carol