I'm surprised you're even considering this. It does not bother you that you will have no say in your marriage?
Actually, the main thing that would bother me would be to not have any say in raising the children, because she and I have different parenting styles (she's more strict) and if nothing else, I don't think I could abdicate from that. Otherwise, I trust her and we are good friends. She is also not a micromanager, which helps.
It does not bother her that she'll have a husband with no backbone?
I asked her that very question, and she said very clearly no, it wouldn't bother her in the least. And she says that besides we will be so much happier so it won't matter.
I should point out that in the bedroom, I very much take the lead and she said she wants me to keep doing that as long as it is enjoyable for her.
Please elaborate on how your trial went and what you felt worked well.
Our trial period was about a year ago. We set up the rules and agreed it would be for a month. It went very well actually, with no arguments. Although a complication came up because it just so happened that during that time I came down on orders to leave for a military training course and then Afghanistan, so we were trying to make the best use of the time we had. So it's hard to know if it went so well because of that, or because she was in charge. I just don't feel like it was a real test.
After I came back from deployment, and after so taking vacation and so much family craziness during the holidays, we talked about doing this again, but she didn't want a "trial period", she wants it for real now. So I told her I need time to think about it.