Join Date: May 2013
Location: The First State
I began going through perimenopause at around age 40-41. I started getting wicked migraines the day before my period was due to start. And, at one point, I was getting my period about every other week. But instead of 5 days it was shrinking down to 3.
Luckily the migraine thing only lasted for about a year and then they and my periods stopped. I'm 50 now and I haven't had a period for about three years.
The hot flashes and heart palpitations were the worst of it for me. The night sweats just taught me to dress in ONLY cotton nighties. Threw away all of my nylon ones. (The bonus of the hot flashes is that we didn't have to turn the heat on for about three winters! I carried my own furnace according to my husband and he just put on sweats! What a money saver that was!)
My mother gave me good advice as I was going through the worst of it when she passed... Dress in layers for the flashes, cough hard when you get a heart palpitation (it will stop it cold!), and remember that it's a natural part of life. She always said that you didn't take anything more than an aspirin when you first started getting your period they why should you muck up the stopping of it with a bunch to drugs. That being said, I know some women have symptoms that are much worse and need some help through it. They should work closely with their doctor for that help. My doctor told me that most herbs (Soy and St. John's Wort, etc.) won't help terribly much for most symptoms. His exact quote to me was "well, you can deal with the hot flashes or you can take soy and deal with the hot flashes."
The worst part is the psychological part. The knowing you will never have another child. Not that I wanted another... I had one daughter and really never wanted another. But the thought that the potential was gone was a little rough. But then I thought further and realized that NOT having to deal with periods once a month was worth it! No more cramps! No more migraines! No more craving chocolate or salty stuff! No more mess and back aches and leg aches and on and on and on!
Take it one hot flash at a time and hang in there! It was a temporary phase in life that did not in any way mean the end of my life! Nope - it's a brand new day! And I'm lovin' life!
I hate hearing about any woman to uses PMS or cramps or menopause, etc. as an excuse to behave badly. Ladies - we're better than that! (Aren't we???)