Before I continue with post #11:
So before I met my wife, I was an avid health "nut". I tried to eat as well as I could afford and I exercised as often as time would allow. I am primarily a swimmer and runner although more the former than the latter. I was part of the local Masters Swim Club and participated in a number of biathlons (swim and run events).
I carried some of this lifestyle into our marriage, however as the years went on I waned from both my healthier eating habits and exercising. My wife followed suit and we both fell into bad habits. Life events happened (some I will discuss later), stress of children and work piled up and I started to drink a lot. I was not at the level of needing to join AA, but it was not good either. It was not only affecting my health (my weight was almost 190, my HR, BP and other parameters were bad) but my relationship with my children and my wife was deteriorating. I will admit there were days, weeks and possibly even months straight that I was so inebriated in the evenings I would pass out on the couch or in bed... neglecting my wife. It is not that I was angry at her or had no desire for sex, it was simply a bad habit that lead to these bad circumstances.
As I continued to abuse my body with overindulgences, I also started to pay the price with health signals, kidney stones, a bout of jaundice, etc. I remember waking up one day and saying to myself this has to stop. If not I will not see my sons grow up. I got up, saw a half-full wine bottle and 9 beers in the fridge. I opened every bottle of beer and poured them all down the sink. Did the same with the wine bottle. That afternoon, I bought some running shoes. My wife's reaction
"and you are going to do what?" Since that day, I have continued to work toward getting back my mojo. And, although a number of other medical issues cropped up since then, I have been able to deal with everything now that I have made this lifestyle change once again. My health parameters are now close to what they were when I was 20... not only that my sexual mojo is close to that of a 20 year old as well
Now, I only drink if I go out to dinner and even then, I try to limit that amount. So far successful. Again, my wife followed suit and she too is on track with keeping up with exercise and eating right. Do we ever eat bad? Sure but these are truly considered treats now and not something that happens daily or even weekly. And, our sex life has improved from what was probably 5x/month to 3 - 4x/week. All spontaneous and wonderful...