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I am not perfect, but respect given is respect earned, at least that is part of how I see communication.
What's sad is, I know this. It's not that I don't. I just seem to get......not sure. I'm still working on it. I'm not sure if it's laziness or frustration? I'll figure it out and work on it or just accept it and work on it. Either way, LOL I am working on it.


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Love, respect and commit: these are complicated verbs. My story is an attempt to weave these together in both my successes as well as presenting my vulnerabilities (failures).

It is hard, because I don't want to sugar coat any of this... To do so would be rightfully criticized and serve no function.

Partly this is why (to Trenton), I can't just put it all out there at once. I agonize at telling my story, because I begin to feel naked. So please be gentle. But don't ever forget, I will do all I can to defend my marriage against any and all attacks.

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But don't ever forget, I will do all I can to defend my marriage against any and all attacks.

My very own , personal credo too.
I've had to do it once here on TAM.
It did not go down very nice.....

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Thought I would share this before I continue my story. Also I plan on interviewing my wife this weekend with recorder in hand. I know it is going to be tough to here some answers but I want her voice to be heard as well.

Last day of school for my kiddos. My oldest (autistic) son apparently painted a self portrait of himself as a requirement for a grade. He did not want to bring it home. And, when I put it in the car, he wanted to destroy it. I have to hide it from him:

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Holy Crap! I'm tongue tied. It's beautiful, d.

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Holy Crap! I'm tongue tied. It's beautiful, d.
thank you... but not sure I will be able to hang up in the house anywhere. This is the life of an autistic mind.
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Should make the point of saying... since that day I poured out the alcohol, I have consumed some beer and wine at home on occasion, but as of late (since last December), none. I hope to keep to the policy of drinking only when I go out and only a few.
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Wow! He sure is gifted with art. What an amazing portrait

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Wow! He sure is gifted with art. What an amazing portrait
He hates it, I want to frame it and hang it up. If we did, sure he would find the opportunity to destroy it.
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He hates it, I want to frame it and hang it up. If we did, sure he would find the opportunity to destroy it.
Why would he want to destroy such a beautiful piece of art he made? That's so sad.


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Why would he want to destroy such a beautiful piece of art he made? That's so sad.
I wish I could give you an answer. The challenges of an ASD child.
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Well, even if he can't see it or feel it, *WE* can all see Kenji's magnificent talent!

In Japanese the meaning of the name Kenji is: Intelligent second son; strong and vigorous.

He looks to be ALL of those things in his talented self-portrait!
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Well, even if he can't see it or feel it, *WE* can all see Kenji's magnificent talent!

In Japanese the meaning of the name Kenji is: Intelligent second son; strong and vigorous.

He looks to be ALL of those things in his talented self-portrait!
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Thought I would share this before I continue my story. Also I plan on interviewing my wife this weekend with recorder in hand. I know it is going to be tough to here some answers but I want her voice to be heard as well.

Last day of school for my kiddos. My oldest (autistic) son apparently painted a self portrait of himself as a requirement for a grade. He did not want to bring it home. And, when I put it in the car, he wanted to destroy it. I have to hide it from him:


First of all, please forgive my ignorance,I wasn't quite aware that you had a son who was Autistic. Maybe I don't spend much time on TAM,or I tend to focus on just the threads I am actively participating in. This is the first time I'm reading / participitating in a thread started by you.

That is a very interesting self portrait done by your son.

I am an amateur artist, I used to sketch and paint as a hobby.
[ lol, haven't done so in quite a while.]
Most artists work are a form of self expression.

whenever I look at art, I try to see it from the angle of the painter / artist.Maybe its just that old part of me.

I look at this portrait, some things are jumping out at me.

1] The background used. What he used was a background of abstract, continuous , asymmetrical lines , shapes and forms.The background commands my attention first.

2]The style / medium. The style he used is normally used by graphic artist in black & white format,which I think its called
" contrasting."
Interestingly he contrasts the portrait against an abstract background .

3] In the portrait ,the majority of it is black without much detail.
In the part of the portrait that is supposed to be white, there is a " collage " along a monochrome colour scheme ,with asymmetrical shapes and lines. Interestingly enough, that part of the portrait is rich with details , including facial expression and the background.

In essence, it is a beautiful piece, even though it's supposed to be a black & white contrast, there is nothing simple about it.

My advice is to preserve it and save it.

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thank you... but not sure I will be able to hang up in the house anywhere. This is the life of an autistic mind.
I don't need or expect an explanation. I just wanted you to know I don't understand what you mean here. I must be looking at it differently. I truly think it's a talent. Maybe I am missing something?

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