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post #61 of 520 (permalink) Old 05-26-2013, 12:32 PM
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Re: Mr. and Mrs. Drerio's Journey

Not a sprint, padawan, a marathon...as YOU pointed out!

If the purpose is to tell your story, honor your wife and extended family, and show a true portrayal of the ups/downs of a long-term relationship and life in general, then it's DEFINITELY worth the byte space.

If the purpose is to have the MOST POPULAR thread at TAM, you'd be better served with a spit/swallow thread.

It has "REAL MEANING" if it has real meaning to YOU. And to your BUDDIES (who are all here reading, enjoying, and telling you we would like more when you get the chance). And to potential future readers who are newlyweds or trying to rekindle or resurrect marriage that has gone off the tracks.

It does not have "REAL MEANING" to people who are miserable and would like company, or who view others' marital woes as a spectator sport! That doesn't seem like a great loss to me!

...just my opinion (of which I have MANY )


ETA: Sometimes it is EASIER to say you will 'die' for your family than to say you will 'LIVE' for them! Glad you made the choice you did last month! You have chosen to live, TRULY LIVE, in the moment!

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post #62 of 520 (permalink) Old 05-26-2013, 12:55 PM Thread Starter
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thank you SGW, I understand. You are right, I am too old to worry about a popularity contest. I guess I was just looking and wondering if it made any difference.

It does to me... If it does help anyone else, as I hope a small part can, all the better.
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I am not sure given what I read in other threads, it has any real meaning.


I see the tombstones on all the threads in the forum only after 3 - 5 pages.
I'm not sure what you mean by the last sentence,but just remember that for every person posting there are many more looking on.People need to see that after the honeymoon phase, comes the real meat and potatoes of a marriage;the problems faced,how they're overcome and that they can be overcome.

You have a marriage that works.Someone will come on here,I have no doubt and though you may never know it,read this and leave with some renewed hope that they can find the way themselves.So worth the effort in my humble opinion.

"Truth is like the sun,you can shut it out for a time,but it ain't going away"-Elvis
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Thank you TBT... I was referring the tombstone of threads in the "successful long term marriage" thread. But, you and SGW are right. This is definitely not a popularity contest. Nor is this an example of perfection.

I don't have a perfect marriage, but I would call it successful in my mind. I can say after all this time I am still madly in-love with my wife. Maybe not the same love (more infatuation in the beginning) as when we first met or got married, but a love that runs very deep.

After interviewing my wife she has said the same, she is still in-love with me. I asked that question and I was ready to cry... I did cry but more for the right reasons. I promise I will continue my story either tomorrow or Tuesday.
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Nothing is perfect. Success is the love you describe. Success is the devotion to your wife and family. Success is working through, around or over the challenges of living, and doing it together. Perfection would be boring. It's good to read about couples working together toward the same goal. It's good to know that it is possible. It's good to read the gratitude with which you look at your wife and children. I think that is something for all to make note of. Thank you for continuing to share your life, drerio.

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Nothing is perfect. Success is the love you describe. Success is the devotion to your wife and family. Success is working through, around or over the challenges of living, and doing it together. Perfection would be boring. It's good to read about couples working together toward the same goal. It's good to know that it is possible. It's good to read the gratitude with which you look at your wife and children. I think that is something for all to make note of. Thank you for continuing to share your life, drerio.
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If the purpose is to tell your story, honor your wife and extended family, and show a true portrayal of the ups/downs of a long-term relationship and life in general, then it's DEFINITELY worth the byte space.

If the purpose is to have the MOST POPULAR thread at TAM, you'd be better served with a spit/swallow thread.
This is so very true, some of the threads I see take off here...I just shake my head....

SGW is so right on... in her words.......it's in the portrayal of the human ups & downs on this Marital Train that can derail at times....and that hard work/ discipline/ resolve to keep giving ...forgiving....as you get the wheels back on track....this others can relate to...such stories are inspiring ...it speaks something to them as hope can be found in the ashes. ..

...Ya know I have entertained putting our Love story in this section...What stops me is this >> It would come off like too much of a Fairy Tale.

For us...Our most difficult times was BEFORE WE MET....I've have more tears , anger, feeling alone & unwanted ...from age 9 to 15 than I have in 31 yrs with this man by my side....he's forever been my daily sunshine....

Very few could relate to our struggles (Secondary Infertility, Men who love so much they are passive to their own needs (only in the bedroom).....I can't say our wheels ever left the track...even in my tears over feeling I'll never realize the family we have today...he still made it all so bearable..... Even when we fought, it was over in a few hours...couldn't ask for more.... ...then we found a renewed passion in Mid life - my focus off all those arrows we were blessed with...and solely onto HIM.....

Too much of this ... will bring out this response in others >> ...as it needs more DRAMA somehow....

So just keep it Real Drerio...I think the rule goes something like this....the further you fall away...hitting those gutters in life...those Prodigal son journeys (or wayward husbands)....generally the more depth to your story....having experienced both sides....this is what life is all about.
...and have a great Family Sunday...

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Thanks for posting this Drerio. I really enjoy reading about your story.
I wish that I were able to post about a long marriage journey and I'm jealous of people who can. You are lucky.
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Thanks for posting this Drerio. I really enjoy reading about your story.
I wish that I were able to post about a long marriage journey and I'm jealous of people who can. You are lucky.
Thank you.
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Getting ready to go to my youngest son's flag football game. Then a bbq/pot luck after the game. Later this evening, to the beach so our dog can run and play.

So yes my wife goes a little overboard. 10 kids on the team and their parents. You would think we were feeding the troops. But, I love her for her dedication.

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I forgot, corn to be grilled

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Sounds like a whole lotta good food & fun for the kids...Your wife goes all out ... Even the dog gets to enjoy the beach !
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Sounds like a whole lotta good food & fun for the kids...Your wife goes all out ... Even the dog gets to enjoy the beach !
She does... although, a little change in plans. Dog gets to go to the beach tomorrow. Later this afternoon before dinner we are going to put flowers on "grandpas" (FIL) grave. He too was a veteran.
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That's part of the local culture too, isn't it drerio? You can't show up to these games (or parties) with just chips and sandwiches. Unless people can't have thirds, it's not really a meal.
Your wife definitely made a feast for everyone.
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The SPAM reminds when when I lived on Guam....
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