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Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
Caroline,
My husband is very impressed by you and your husband. 74, oral sex, just IMPRESSIVE.
Are women in your generation more submissive to their husbands? Are you offended if you see the word" submissive"? I don't mind being submissive to a loving husband. But if the man is not good, I stay away from him.
After I was engaged I found out about hot sex through my boss....He played up to me and I jumped right in...My husband to be was in the Navy....My boss did things to me that my sailor hadn't done...I now wonder why I let him?...Could it have been both hot sexual curiosity or a hot sexual woman yearning to break free?....Either way, I loved it...He was far older than I was and married....From this experience I found out the true capabilities and dangers of a woman in sexual heat....Thinking about this, it still scares me...Despite this happening, it was a good thing for me to learn....A very good thing...Who knows without this knowledge of life, I may have wandered....I consider this my blessing...
I am wondering about the same thing. My high school physics teacher gave me the first orgasm, he was good at sex, I think he taught me how to have sex. Are we sexual because we have experience with men who are experienced lovers? Don't want to preach about the bad stuff we had done. I am just wondering. I count that my blessing too. Because of him, I learned how to achieve orgasms myself, I have started enjoying sex ever since!
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
Tell me something 3timesAlady:
I must say I immensely enjoyed reading your story. I can FEEL your passion, even sexual fury for your Husband, such a love that has no bounds, how precious, how priceless to have experienced THIS in this life. I agree so few do. In my sexual awakening just 2 yrs ago- I was almost obsessed, scourering Sex Forums in my lust for understanding what I had been missing & I found something that touched me VERY DEEPLY.....
I came across this post on another forum before I ever made it here & was soooo touched by it - I copied & pasted it, printing it a handful of times to insert in my favotire books! It was surely written by someone possessing the same spirit as YOU - or this was indeed YOUR post ! ???
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Sex is desiring him every time you look at him. Needing him to fill that wonderful yearning deep inside you that needs filling & to die for. Sex is having breasts that ached to be touched & loved & you can not live without it. Sex is waking him up in the middle of the night as you need him & want him & then you find that he wants you just as much & you make love for an hour & get up & have coffee & wonder where the years have gone. Sex is finding the thrill after years of a man that can still make you scream & turn you to mush. Sex is turning him into a crazy man who wants you more than his own life. Now. Love is being able to see some fault in your lover but shutting your mouth for the good of a marriage. Love is having to give & take in a marriage. Learning where to stop an argument when it is not important to win. Winning sometimes can be losing. Love is being able to find in that precious other the boy in the man that you fell in love when you 1st married. Love is being able to go to the sexiest side of you & turn that man into mush after all these years. Love is being able to hear from your lover that if you die first he will follow you as he cannot live without you . Love is the sunshine in the morning when it is cloudy out but seeing him next to you makes your world. Love is being able to say screwing & not being embarrassed plus any other really dirty word in the bedroom as he loves it. The dirtier the better as we all know that ladies do not talk dirty with those wonderful words but we also know as ladies that when we enter our bedroom to our precious that we leave the lady at the door. We then turn into his sex siren. As hot & as sensual as can be. And then we all know that when we leave that bedroom we again pick up the lady. All us ladies must have the two faces of Eve. This makes for a very very fullfilling marriage, full of intimacy and Love. A man would never stray if he had this.
For a time I was sooo worried about my husband, feeling I finally was awakened to my sexual self & ready to love like this where I wanted to explore to the heights, but feeling he was slowing down. Looking back, my mind was in overdrive & worried about many things that were simply not there. I have had great hope this last year since coming out of this fog. Your writings are truly inspirational , and can give any woman great wisdom for her marriage & such HOPE for sexaul fullfillment at any age!
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Originally Posted by CarolineMRF
His wants to him are secondary... Mine are first.... I was so stupid and inhibited that I did not give him great oral sex until I was 57.... ....
What -YOU, this fire breathing seductress at the age of 57 -still inhibited! I should count myself blessed in comparison , to have uncovered this discovery at the young age of 42. Greenpearl is even younger! God Bless her.
No going back now, I want to be able to write & feel as I do till your age . Indeed this message is so important. Of anything in my life & living, I much regret this waste of being inhibited, this sexual repression I somehow allowed to come upon me & stripped from my marriage, my lover, my best friend, my husband.
Just to repeat the beauty of your words here :
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Originally Posted by CarolineMRF
Love is being able to see some fault in your lover, but shutting your mouth for the good of a marriage.... Love is having to give and take in a marriage.... Love is learning where to stop an argument as is it so important to win?.... Always remembering that winning sometimes can be losing.... Love is being able to find in that precious other half the boy in the man that you fell in love with 53 years ago.... Love is being able to go to the sexiest side of you and turn that man into mush after all these years.... Love is having to endure relatives. This one really killed me, but love won out.... Love is being able to hear from your lover that if you die first that he will follow you, as he cannot live without you...You plead and say don't do that as you have three children who would have to deal with this tragedy.... Love is knowing that he will do it and shutting your mouth.... Love is the sunshine in the morning where it is cloudy out, but seeing him next to you makes this true.
You can do this because you both love it, and you know it turns him on...Lets face it, the dirtier we are, the better he loves it...We all know that a wise woman leaves the lady at the door and becomes his wanton woman in bed...It is part of her that she has wanted to do for so many years and has finally broke free... We women love being his sex siren and be as down and dirty as we can be, but oh, how we fight ourselves...This is part of our two faces of Eve from long ago.
In your 2nd post with such emotion -going to the restaurant, I was so expecting you to say he had fallen, but he did not! How could you not have been more happy to hear of these things? The fact he had temptation, oh how normal this is , even expected !! As you seem to grasp now . What a beautiful man. Is there anything better than a love that would do nothing but uphold the other , never to hurt -even if we could get away with it!!! I do not at all feel you did the wrong thing in opening this cans of worms/honesty. It is even more of a testimony to his faithfulness , his enduring Love for his wife.
Last night I lay on my husband's stomach as we watched "Bridges of ******* County" (beautiful love story even if about an affair), I was still moved. My husband coughed, during the end of the movie where the husband lay dying, & for a moment I plunged in time to it being MY husband, the tears started to flow. I pray we have many years left. We ARE this close. I do not think I could survive without this man -He feels the same for me. Some would say this is not healthy, but why not ? Shouldn’t our love be THIS strong, with such intensity? Should we not drown ourselves in it -if it fullfills us and causes the sun to rise every morning in our hearts.
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Originally Posted by CarolineMRF
I love this man enough that when he was getting headaches from Viagra a couple of years ago, I decided to take it upon myself to change him back to my stud.... I had read a book that said we should masturbate each day to keep our sexual parts aroused... This sounded very wise to me and so I began my experiment with life.... Twice a day I performed oral sex on him and kissed and played with him.... I am sure he thought I was on some kind of a yeah hah pill or that I had flipped out... But that man smiled a lot....
This is quite amazing. The use it - or loose it philosophy here. I make sure my husband gets a daily erection. I can't imagine at the age of 70 not needing Viagra though! Seriously, he must have fantastic Test levels for his age & blood vessels.
** Give us some diet / vitamin secrets if you post on this particular subject to keep our aging men Hard & ready.
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OK , so those were YOUR very words that I posted in RED, and you are very upset that others are using them? SO you had a personal website - and have since taken it down -all because others are using your words?
If you have no intention of writing a book , then why does this bother you. If you want to get the word out and help others , let your words roam, I was inspired by them! Are you mad at me for copying them for myself ?
They resonated with me. Isn't that what you want for us women who are ever learning & growing ?
I guess I would simply be flattered, but not upset at all.
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I also do not understand why you have 2 or 3 different names on this forum?
I guess if you want the credit for all of these writings, you may have to forgo some of that privacy. I can't see how you will stop others from feeling inspired. I would personally never plagiarize anyone, but when I read something that I LOVE , that speaks to me, I often print it & throw it in a book somewhere.
I would hope this does not ruin your day. Maybe you should reconsider writing a book. A shame to quit posting because of this fear, so own it, do something about it.
You have come this far.
What site are you taking about ? I am lost. And curious now of the erotic words left out of it !
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i think you should write that book. it would be good to have it out there. nowadays, there i so much sex every where i do think young people have gotten lost alond their journey.
my husband and i wanted to love like this from such an early age, we met, and havent stoped talking yet. we always say it took us ten years to catch up on the first ten years of our life, we instantly had a bond. we are alike in every way we are different, just like twins. if you see one you see the other. i think the younger generation is confused on what love is. i think its too much instant gratification.
just my opinion. i think you write beautifuly, and you should consider sharing your gift with the world...but im gald you shared it here....
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Originally Posted by greenpearl
Are we sexual because we have experience with men who are experienced lovers? Don't want to preach about the bad stuff we had done. I am just wondering. I count that my blessing too. Because of him, I learned how to achieve orgasms myself, I have started enjoying sex ever since:
I just want to add. As for me, I never had an experienced Lover to show me anything. I have been having my own orgasms probably since the young age of 12 or so. A few years before I met my virgin boyfriend/now husband - and we still waited for marraige- for intercoarse. Maybe if I had that extra experience, I would have not been so inhibited for ages. I will never know.
For me anyway, it was not an experienced Erotic Lover in my past who jumped my Seductive drive into being. I would site Pure raging Hormones & our minds do this to women, it helps to have our man who loves us & desires us fueling the way -then it just flows out of us naturally, we find we can't help ourselves anymore, that pent up Passion finally unleashed.
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Originally Posted by Threetimesalady
Hi greenpearl: I am not a submissive woman...Maybe that's why it took me so many years to do oral sex on my husband...It wasn't until I was in my 50's that the hot babe woke up...By this I mean "doing him"....Before that time I would lay in bed looking at that beautiful piece of manhood while he ate me out and dying to grab it and start sucking...But the inhibited woman held back...Maybe words of my Mother saying "don't ever go near that dirty thing" or whatever, but I stayed cool...However, after a few too many drinks I would head for the good country....Then he really got sucked off...Ah, the life of a woman...You struggle to break free and then when you do you crawl into a hole as you are embarrassed at what you did....Believe me, there are many like this....
Now for the submissive woman: I have taken care of all the money since day one...I am very financially minded...This has grown with age...I have found that as I have aged that my response are lightening fast...I thirst for knowledge....We are a 50-50 team....However, financially I am the leader of the pack....
I am in charge of money, too. I take care of all the bills, so I am not submissive! My husband gets pocket money every week, but his pocket money is really a lot. I don't spend much on myself, he spends his money on chocolate, drinks, candy, all he wants.............. He is a spoiled baby.
I don't know if we are a 50-50 team. I feel I take care of more things, for small and daily stuff, it is usually me who makes the decision, I decide what we eat, I decide where we go for a trip, I decide how much money we should spend on gifts, I always ask him first though, I need him to nod his head, then we'll do. My husband gets to make the big decisions, like buying an apartment or investing!
Maybe my interpretation of submissive is respect!
Women should respect their husbands and make their husbands feel great in front of their women!
greenpearl: I don't consider this one of the bad things that I have done...I consider it one of the greatest learning lessons in life that I learned...I learned that within me lived a hot woman...One that knew how to turn a man to mush...I believe I wrote once that my boss awoke the woman in me and my husband found the tiger....I had orgasmed many times with my husband...He could touch my breasts and I was a mess...But, this older man found a part of me that I had never shown...You see I demanded respect in all the men I dated...Nobody, but nobody got to first base...I believe it was for this reason that once he started to ravish me that I allowed him to do all that he did....I loved it....Then I feared my husband to be wouldn't....But, he ate better....Ah, those were the days of wine and roses....
Please understand that I do not encourage affairs....Yet, I understand them....You see I have the advantage of knowing all the years of a woman...The hot young babe and all the middle years plus this glorious sex filled age that we are at now....
I know that!
Caroline, your posts are very erotic!
Hot and sexy feeling just flows from your writing, and they are very elegant....................
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Originally Posted by Threetimesalady
We are alike, but we are different...If we were too much alike, it wouldn't be fun....I respect him more every day....I, too, do much of the deciding on foods...If I didn't he would weight 500 pounds...If he needs money I give it to him...Not that he is hen pecked, but that's the way he wants it...Nobody, but nobody would say that he is dominated...That would be a mistake....We just plain agree on things......
Caroline
Read an article AFEH searched about interdependent couple, interdependent couple still have their own personalities, but respect the other one's difference. I still remain to be myself, my husband remains to be himself, now we just understand each other so don't misinterpret things. My husband insists healthy diet, he insists we eat a lot of fruit everyday, he insists no fat no junk food, I benefit a lot from listening to him.
My husband always jokes that he is being hen pecked by me!
But I am sure he is happy being hen pecked by me. Few men are being pampered like him! He really has no stress in his marriage!
Thank you greenpearl...Ours is a very erotic love story...I think of us as a combination of who all younger, middle age and hopefully older people are and should be...We make love the same same and/or sometimes better and have found this place in time that we never knew existed...It's pretty awesome...
On the post above on cheating, I didn't realize until I just read it, that I had added the prelude to the blog...You see I do these things at my site...Kind of let the wild side out...I love it...Kind of a "Dear diary" thing...I did this one just about four years ago... Sould have censored a few words before I put it on here, but then this is who I am and why lie...Thank you again for your words...You are very kind...
Caroline
No one is a saint! I have done a lot of dirty stuff in my past. I am in no position to judge others!
I am obscene and vulgar when it is related to sex language, a few women criticized me for it. Ha, do I care? No, I don't! It is just me! And I believe sex between a husband and a wife is just sacred, no matter what we do or say, it is wonderful and beautiful, no need to be restricted. Free, free ourselves and enjoy our body the most.....................................
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Originally Posted by Threetimesalady
...It has to do with memories of yesterday....These are the things that people forget....They forget who they used to be...
I have decided in the past 2 weeks to make a written Journal of our life together, everthing I/we can remember that stuck out, we enjoyed, the laughter, the craziness, the unexpected, the dreams we had & their coming to pass, It is important to me -to be able to have this on paper before my memory fades someday. Loving photography as I do, I will have many photos to include with the many stories.
I agree, we should always be able to look at our Lover & no matter his age, see the young man he was, not forget these things.
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A hot stud must have a healthy level of testosterone in his body.
Without testosterone, men can't feel hot. They're usually passive, not intersted in sex no matter how hot the woman is.
You can praise & worship him as a hot stud, but he's not able to get any sufficient erection.
Without enough testosterone, they can't sleep well at night, also.
Your husband, at his age, took viagra 6 years ago, seems that he has received testosterone replacement. (injection or treatment) So he's able to perform in bed without a problem.
Maybe he's not telling you? You have to find out the truth by yourself.
Any man with low testosterone can't perform in bed without a viagra. No miracle! Only viagra brings miracle.
Just make sure wives who suffer from sexless marriage & accidentally read this read, are not misleaded by incorrect medical information.
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How could you not have been more happy to hear of these things? The fact he had temptation, oh how normal this is , even expected !! As you seem to grasp now . What a beautiful man. Is there anything better than a love that would do nothing but uphold the other , never to hurt -even if we could get away with it!!! I do not at all feel you did the wrong thing in opening this cans of worms/honesty. It is even more of a testimony to his faithfulness , his enduring Love for his wife. 
