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Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
How old is your husband? 70+? or 80?
What I suspected is, if your husband has low testosterone problem, being not able to get full erection and tried out viagra 6 years ago.
He would continue to suffer from erectile dysfuction all the rest of his life.
Because when testicles get old, they produce less testosterone, they can't get young again by magic but by medical care; however, most men protect their manhood ego carefully. It's possible that he doesn't want to report his manhood treatment to you.
Especially when your husband knows you love sex. To satisfy you, he must get testosterone replacement/treatment to maintain his good sexual desire & performance in bed.
What is misleading in your thread is, you promoted love & praise, so hot sex can be gained easily at age 70+, which is misleading because love & praise don't treat erectile dysfuction, only doctors treat erectile dysfuction.
Please tell ppl how come your husband who used to suffer from erectile dysfuction 6 years ago, but suddenly after 6 years, he's kicking like a stud?
What I believe is he's switched viagra to testoterone injections, slowly, that would make him a young & kicking stud again.
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
Mslonely,
What are you doing here in Threetimesalady's thread?
I see you have changed in some areas these days, and then you are here questioning somebody else's happiness again???
This is a big world, miracles do exist, there are few, but they do exist!
Be happy for other people's happiness, then others will be happy for you when you are happy. They will also feel sad when you are sad.
Also please talk to Threetimesalady with respect, in our culture, we respect people who are older than us, no matter who they are! We talk to them with respect!
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What is misleading in your thread is, you promoted love & praise, so hot sex can be gained easily at age 70+, which is misleading because love & praise don't treat erectile dysfuction, only doctors treat erectile dysfuction.
Hot women also don't treat erectile dysfuction.
Some men can still produce their testosterone by their own testicles at age 76 but few. Probably, 30%-40% of men could.
Your husband could be one of the healthy men because he's very healthy & he does lots of sport.
Your husband is 76 years old & able to satisfy you in bed like a kicking stud. You're the lucky wife in TAM.
Many wives here are suffering from sexless life, not because their husband don't love them or find them not enough sexy.
It's because they don't have a healthy level of testosterone like your husband has.
Instead of telling the wives to get more sexy, I would encourage them to bring their husbands for a testosterone blood test & get necessary treatment.
Their sexual life would be kicking again. Just like yours & mine.
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Mslonely,
I think Threetimesalady is talking about normal healthy men here. For those men, their women's love and praise will make them feel loved and attached! They have their wives's love and respect, they feel happy, they want to **** their wives like crazy!
There are men who have low testosterone problem, and they need doctor's help. Men's testosterone level is going down since the pressure and stress they have, and new technology, contaminated environment.
Threetimesalady is talking normal healthy men here, we can't deny the fact that a lot of men lose sexual desire for their wives since the wives are not that appealing!
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
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Originally Posted by greenpearl
Mslonely,
What are you doing here in Threetimesalady's thread?
I see you have changed in some areas these days, and then you are here questioning somebody else's happiness again???
This is a big world, miracles do exist, there are few, but they do exist!
Be happy for other people's happiness, then others will be happy for you when you are happy. They will also feel sad when you are sad.
Also please talk to Threetimesalady with respect, in our culture, we respect people who are older than us, no matter who they are! We talk to them with respect!
I did talk to her with respect and I explained my veiws as clear as possible.
I didn't disrespect her happiness. What I concern about are there are many wives in TAM suffering from sexless marriage.
There is some information that is misleading in her thread that I feel a need to point out.
Especially when she said being sexy can cure erectile dysfuction, which is simply not true otherwise all the male health doctors should go home.
I'm sorry if my pointing out some medical information made her feel disrespected.
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
I hope she's talking about normal healthy men.
Normal healthy men no needs viagra but she did mention her husband needed viagra 6 years ago when he's 70 years old.
From the day the man needs to try out viagra is the day their testicles told him, "Sorry, we can't produce as much testosterone as you need from now on."
When the testicles are old and not able to work or function well, there's no magic but to slow down the production year after year.
She claimed her husband's erectile dysfucntion is cured & he became young & kicking again because she's being a hot wife.
How could he recover from erectile dysfuction without consulting with a doctor? Where did he get his vigras 6 years ago? Not from a doctor's prescrition?
If he is a normal healthy man, why would he needs the viagra prescrition, then?
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
@ greenpearl
I agree with you that erection dysfuction can happens when there's stress & tireness.
In that case, no man would feel a need to go to the doctor to talk about their manhood issues, asking for viagra prescrition, when their erectile dysfuction only happens very rarely.
Most men would go to the doctor to get some viagras only when they're not able to handle their manhood issues by themselves anymore and it happens most of the times.
I'm sure her husband takes care of his manhood issue very well but she might not know all the details.
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Dear Threetimesalady,
If you're right, I don't get why you feel very bothered & defensive when talking about medication & men's health issues?
If you think you know better than a men health's doctor, I respect you as well. You should open your own men health clinic.
By the way, I'm not any god. I'm just one of the wife who suffer from sexless marriage for the past 6 years. That's what made me in this forum looking for advice. It's from the doctor mouth that told me when men get older, it's normal that their testicles don't produce as much as testosterone as young men.
No matter how hard I tried to be hot, playful, flirty & sexy, my husband's cok has no response until the doctor gave him the viagra.
It's not because my husband doesn't love me. It's not because I'm not sexy & hot or I'm fat or I'm not gentle.
If I read your thread & continue your method, my marriage life will be same sexless today.
No man wants to go to see the doctor until they totally lose their control in managing their manhood issue.
When your husband was 70 years old, he'd visited the doctor & got a viagra prescrition, his erectile dysfuction had been an issue for a long time already before he went to the doctor.
It's possible he didn't tell you that he has switched to testosterone treatment.
I'm sorry but I have to disagree with some information that you provided.
All the rest of your points I totally agree with you.
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
Threetimesalady,
Please don't let this kind of things discourage you! It happens often!
We have a loving heart to help, but long time ago I realized people can be helped only when they want to be helped. We say what works for us, we share our life, some people might love it, some people might spit on it, this is life, this is human, there are different kinds of people in life!
Please don't let this kind of things bother you or ruin your day, it is not worthwhile! If what we say can make a few reassured of what they believe, then we have company! I have become more confident from your life, I have also told my husband about your technique, massaging our genitals when we need to be aroused, my husband has started to finger my clit! When we are old, and we are losing sexual desire, I will remember and try what you have said here. I wish I am able to enjoy sex when I am in my 70s or 80s! Strong health is what I pray for!!!
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
Greenpearl,
I think you're also misleaded to believe that being a hot wife can cure mens' sexual dysfuction.
When your husband gets old & erectile dysfucntion starts to occur in the bedroom, you will also notice it increases the frequencies until your husband not able to take care of this issue anymore.
There's no miracle until your husband get a doctor's help.
She might not know her husband has received treatment.
I respect her loving heart to help people & I don't mean to beat her up.
But it seems that she can't tolerate any medical information. It seems she can't accept "what if" her husband did receive help from the doctor, which would be a real slam to her strong belief that she's a hot wife & able to cure men's health issue like a magic.
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
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Originally Posted by MsLonely
Greenpearl,
I think you're also misleaded to believe that being a hot wife can cure mens' sexual dysfuction.
When your husband gets old & erectile dysfucntion starts to occur in the bedroom, you will also notice it increases the frequencies until your husband not able to take care of this issue anymore.
There's no miracle until your husband get a doctor's help.
She might not know her husband has received treatment.
I respect her loving heart to help people & I don't mean to beat her up.
But it seems that she can't tolerate any medical information.
I don't know what we are talking about here!
Are we talking about physical malfunction or mental malfunction?
If it is physical, yes, the men have to go to doctors! And for some men's cases, I believe even doctors can't help them! I had sex with a man when I was young, I was naive and knew nothing about sex, I wanted him to marry me! But I was dumped by him since I didn't get to go to college! Now I am so happy that he dumped me, he had impotent problem, he could only last for a minute! One of my teachers married him, don't know what kind of life they have now, don't know if they are still together or not, but I knew they his wife didn't respect or love him! And I feel bad for his wife!
If it is mental malfunction, it has to be cured mentally! Here love is the key! Although love is shown in many different ways, we have to show our spouses the kind of love they want. We have to find out what is important for them so they feel they are loved and cherished!
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
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Originally Posted by greenpearl
I don't know what we are talking about here!
Are we talking about physical malfunction or mental malfunction?
If it is physical, yes, the men have to go to doctors! And for some men's cases, I believe even doctors can't help them! I had sex with a man when I was young, I was naive and knew nothing about sex, I wanted him to marry me! But I was dumped by him since I didn't get to go to college! Now I am so happy that he dumped me, he had impotent problem, he could only last for a minute! One of my teachers married him, don't know what kind of life they have now, don't know if they are still together or not, but I knew they his wife didn't respect or love him! And I feel bad for his wife!
If it is mental malfunction, it has to be cured mentally! Here love is the key! Although love is showed in many different ways, we have to show our spouses the kind of love they want. We have to find out what is important for them so they feel they are loved and cherished!
I totally agree with you that emotional issues must be resolved by love, cherish & patient.
Being impotent is curable medically, but I think the woman who married him will suffer from her sexual life, if he refused to face his impotent problem.
Having sex for 1 min really not much fun... How long can your husband last per round?
Re: 51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...
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Originally Posted by MsLonely
I totally agree with you that emotional issues must be resolved by love, cherish & patient.
Being impotent is curable medically, but I think the woman who married him will suffer from her sexual life, if he refused to face his impotent problem.
Having sex for 1 min really not much fun... How long can your husband last per round?
Depends on my reaction( me moving my body and moaning) and how horny he is! normally ten minutes!
A study showed that ten minutes is normal for men and comfortable for women! I agree! I don't want him to last too long! But I always show that I can't have enough, I do it on purpose! I also make him feel great by telling him that my pu$$$ is sore after the great **** he just performed!