MsLonely

I think your husband's sex drive is healthy.

Maybe you're about to reach your peak..........

When you talk about super horny man, somehow I think about marcoploy69....

MsLonely

Dear Threetimesalady,

I'm sorry if my comments have bothered you.

Now it looks like I'm the evil one who made you feel hurt. I'm the very evil woman who hurt a grandma.

This is too heavy for me to afford.

You have delected your posts so our whole converstaion has gone, now it would make me look even more negative on this thread.

I can take criticisms & judgements but I can't take such responsibility of your deleting your posts and leaving TAM.

I'm an emotional but also pratical viewer of your thread. I did agree with your many parts of your views. I did comment your love story & marriage is very beautiful. (Please check my comments in the past)

I also agreed with your belief that as a wife, we want to take care of our husbands sexual needs and keep them young & kicking in bed.

I do appreciate your loving heart & positive messages to help people here.

There's just one thing I read yesterday, I found it hard to agree with you that is:

"Being a hot wife can cure erectile dysfuction."

You claimed I know nothing about it.

You claimed I'm playing god.

I can accept your criticisms & judgements. I did apologise to you also.

I have been a hot wife for my entire life, but when my husband suffered from erectile dysfuction. Being a hot wife is a limited help to my husband, until we visited the doctor.

My personal & my husband's medical experiences somehow conflicted your belief & I'm very shocked that you can't tolerate different opinion.

If my information is wrong, please correct me.

Please don't say to people that you felt so hurt because of my attacking you personally.

Because of me, you then wanted to delect all your posts & quit.

This is too heavy for me to take!

We might have different understandings on erectile dysfuction and I have voiced out my experiences of dealing with it, but I never meant to hurt you personally.

As for your husband, he did receive testosterone treatment or not, nobody would know and it's not important anymore.

You did say 6 years ago, he did take viagra on your thread (when he's 70 years old)

You said, because you've been a hot wife to him, so he can get full erection without any treatment and got rid of viagra ever since, including now, he's 76 years old.

If it's true that being a hot wife can cure your husband's eretile dysfuction. You shouldn't have deleted your posts & quit.

All the above said, I didn't create the stories by myself.

I feel a need to clear up this fog because many people are in TAM. I don't want to get misunderstood as an evil woman who hurt a grandma and caused her to delete her posts & quit.

I'm sorry for your leaving.

SimplyAmorous

MsLonely:

Please do not feel bad for bringing some balance to these things. I have much to say about testosterone's role on a man & his desire, having worried & read till I am blue in the face about my own husband's lower levels. This thing called "Desire" is not so easy to put in a box with all black & white answers. This can hurt other people who are in a very different situation with their men.

I was very bothered when I 1st came here, I was feeling my husband lost some of that wonderful "desire" simply because he could not keep up with me sexually & he was only in his mid 40's! If we look upon ourselves & our HOTNESS to such a degree , feeling WE have all the power to raise his erections each & every time in all their glory, this belief (alone) can wreck a great marraige- when he struggles.

In this day & age with so many prescription drugs being given out like candy, these CAN mess resentlessly with our God Given hormones. I recently had my husband stop taking a low dose statin - and guess what - MORE energy, his larger appetite returned, better sense of well being and his erections are coming a little faster & more firm. He will never be a high test man, but I feel the meds was doing him no favors.

Just as some are duped into listening to a Televangist such as Benny Hinn -being told if we have "Enough Faith" we WILL Be healed of Cancer, after all God can do all things. Only to be let down, and die slowly while the believer blames himself for NOT having enough Faith. I guess I kind of seen this in the same light, being told that if we are HOT enough, we can resurrect his Erections at any age. Sounds wonderful, but in reality, many more things are at play here.

I DO agree with Threetimesalady about the MIND and it's effects on our desire though. Definetely some truth there. But men need adequate amounts of Test to work with their minds.

Great Thread on the effects of Lower Test here : Dealing with Low Testosterone - Hypogonadism

MsLonely

I had got a lot helpful information from you when dealing with my husband's testosterone problems.
You've been very resourceful in TAM.
You have delivered many excellent points here!
I still have a lot to learn from you!
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SimplyAmorous

3 times a lady - You KNOW I love the way you write, I still use that Quote of yours sometimes on here, I hope you aren't too mad at me! Your words are freaking inspiring. It is encouraging to hear we can have such unbridled romance even into our 70's!

greenpearl

Lady,

For one year, and it was a few years ago, I was paranoid about getting old. I associate old with sickness, I was very scared. Don't you find this funny? A young woman at her mid 30's is scared of getting old.

I think I am over of this fear now.

I have learned your trick, when I want to get horny right away, I ask my husband to play with my clit, and it can lead me from zero to 90, and then he gets ****ed by me!

Glad that you are back!

You give us young ones encouragement!

SimplyAmorous

I also have fears about aging.

My husband got a A1c test at work yesterday , his # wa 5.8. I have been stressing about this all darn day & night, he knew it too, hated to tell me. Just 2 yrs ago, his # was 5.6. I know when you hit 6.0, you need that Glucose test. He is a thin man, but has type 2 on his dads side. Hate it. I am a worrier.

Our health , to me, is MORE important than anything in this world & everything inbetween. Maybe I worship it and need to let it go. When it goes, I FEAR my own reactions, so Yes, to hear from someone your age, still "feeling it", still so Romantic and full of life -amists these health struggles. Very encouraging indeed .

greenpearl

SA,

Now I just know there is nothing we can do if we do get old and sick. It is a natural process! We can do our best to stay healthy by eating healthy and worrying less. But if something is going to happen, we just have to accept it! That's my attitude towards aging now. It helps me on a certain level.

You have six children, they will look after you when you are 80!

My husband and I have to look after ourselves!

Runs like Dog

Don't throw yourself on their mercy. It's a very small target.

greenpearl

Runs,

I like your one sentence comment!

They are precise and funny!

Western culture and Eastern culture are very different!

My parents have five children, their old age is well taken care of! We are like their investment. Three of them are very good stocks, the other two are OK!

greenpearl

Lady,

Ha ha ha, I feel the same.

I am 38 now, but I don't feel I am 38. Or I don't know what 38 should feel. Sometimes I think my parents might have made a mistake and I am actually only 28. Whatever, having this kind of thinking is funny!

I am going to learn from you, when I am 70, I am going to wear Victoria or nothing. I'll have this in mind.

My teeth are very good. Because I didn't have much candy to eat when I was young, I have no cavity in my teeth. Hope my teeth will still be good when I am 70. I like to be able to eat good food.

My mischievous husband is doing his best to keep me young, as long as he flirts with me all the time, I know in his heart, I am still an attractive woman. In my heart, I feel I am always 20!

greenpearl

Lady,

Why would people think bad of you?

And if the do, please don't be bothered by that. It is your life, you are not doing any harm to their life, you live yours, they live theirs. They can think whatever they like to think, if they don't think about good things, it will be exhausting for them to think bad things all the time.

Conrad

Always thought that would be "us" (soon to be ex and I) at age 75.

Good for you.

Glad to hear it does work sometimes.

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-AFEH

Conrad

Caroline,

One consistent theme of this board is remorse.

Atholk once said that "coming here to learn about relationships is like visiting the emergency room to learn about medicine"

I so admire the women here who are doing a "re-think" at midlife - and sometimes before. They realize that their man is their warrior and their horse. Tearing down your own house makes no sense.

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