51 Years...Till Death Do We Part My Love..Then Grab Me As You Go...

Conrad · 12-25-2011, 11:17 AM

How quickly following the flu shots did you get sick?

Enchantment · 01-02-2012, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Threetimesalady

We are two uninhibited, over the hill, fools in love, who will never know what the word "I can't..." means...

I cannot say this enough ... You are AWESOME! Now that I know about your thread, I am going to be checking for updates from you often.

You are such an inspiration! I am loving the words of wisdom you share and the richness of your life with your husband. It inspires me to try and live that richness now, everyday, while believing that - God willing - we can continue to enjoy that richness for many years to come (we are both in our late 40's).

I know that you have mentioned that you have had hesitation in expressing your words to others, and this quote comes to mind:

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”~ Lao Tzu

I can tell that you are deeply loved, and I can also tell that you love deeply. Therefore, I know that you will have the courage to keep coming to us and give us your words of wisdom.

Many blessings.

Best wishes.

aaroncj · 01-03-2012, 12:32 PM

3xALady:

As a 50 year-old man who has been married for more than half my life, I want to thank you for giving me hope for the next half of my marriage. Your writings inspire in me the desire to continue working on my relationship with my wife and give me comfort to know that we can continue to grow together in all aspects of our marriage.

Again, thank you.

Noel1987 · 01-11-2012, 04:43 PM

Thats so sweet Caroline ""57 and 69" that is so lovely hahahaha loved your story

hugs

Enchantment · 01-13-2012, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Threetimesalady

I did not turn into the sexual woman I am until my 50's..... Before that I would have my times like so many other women do, but it is like the moon had to be right and all the stars in alignment for me to feel this way... Maybe my cycle that I no longer had, or maybe just me searching knowing that I was so sexually hot inside and trying to find my way out.... Opening that door of my mind was not easy....I believe many women want to be much more sexual than they let on.... But, that old good girl holds the bad girl back with the guilt from the Adam and Eve syndrome in us.... Cover thyself... Sin no more.... All for the bite of a lousy apple.....

The most puzzling thing in my life at this moment is sexually what has happened to me?.... I have always been a good lover..... Always made him happy..... Given him oral and he has gone down on me...Yet this woman I am inside has yet released another part of herself and cast off her chains and is more unrestrained than I have ever been in my life.....

The way you and your H are - that is the way that it should be!

But is it so difficult for people to believe it or to live it because we are so enmeshed in our lust for youth and our own self-centeredness that we don't believe that having a robust and unfettered sex life in our later years is even possible or desirable?

Many commonly think that women dry up after menopause and men wilt like flowers as they age.

Perhaps it requires nothing more than a person's positive attitude and disposition that acts like a life-giving tonic - bringing the much needed 'water' that will counteract that drying up and wilting - causing both people to flourish again.

Thanks for sharing. You always give me food for thought and hope for the future.

Enchantment · 01-20-2012, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Threetimesalady

Hi Enchantment...Please forgive me for being harsh with my first reply.

There is nothing to forgive as I took no offense.

I did not mean to offend in anyway. If it did offend, please forgive ME as that was definitely not my intent. In my post I was pondering out loud in a more general sense and probably should have stated that my comment was not directed toward you specifically, but was more toward the general attitudes we (collectively) have about aging in our youth-oriented society.

THAT is one of many reasons why I so enjoy your thread. I like to see these restrictive stereotypes so many have totally blown away by real life example.

Ah, well. I hope you know by now that you greatly inspire me and you are now a role model and muse for me as I continue to move forward in life.

shy_guy · 02-01-2012, 02:07 PM

Caroline and ThreeTimesALady, The original post is one of the most beautiful pieces of work I've ever read. After I finished it, I skipped to the last post and read it, and now realize I need to spend some time to familiarize with the wisdom of this thread. I'm so glad you took the time to write this.

Our marriage, passion and sex in the 20's was great, but my wife and I were surprised to find that marriage, passion and sex were better in the 30's than they were in the 20's. We were surprised again that it was all so much better in the 40's than in either the 20's or the 30's. Now, we're realizing that the 40's have almost passed us by, and we're looking forward into the 50's wondering what it will be like. Will it continue to improve? We're in it together, and we'll explore it boldly together. You are an inspiration to me as we look forward to that together.

You brought up another beautiful point in your original post and that is about watching yourself, or your partner age, and realizing what that ultimately means. From the earliest years in our marriage, my wife and I always told each other that we wanted to die together. I don't want to be without her. It's such a profoundly sad thing to even consider. When I consider it seriously, I sympathize with her over the fact that women usually outlive men. No guarantees, though, so how can we know? I'll lovingly plan like she'll outlive me, but in honoring her wishes, I'll hope and pray that we go together. Now that we recognize that the halfway point is most likely in our rearview mirror, and having seen some of our friends already depart, these realities sometimes become very cruel, but it is reality.

We won't spend the good times worrying about the bad time - that makes all the times bad. Right now, we're alive, we're as active and healthy as we've ever been. Two of the three kids are out of the house and we have freedom to take off and enjoy each other like we haven't had since those early days when we were a young man and woman taking off at a moment's notice, jumping on a train and going someplace just because it sounded like a fun weekend together. We're relishing it - cherishing it ... and looking forward to the new things these next years will bring us. Now, we really are aware that we don't know how much longer we have. However much longer it is, we want it to be together ... hand in hand and side by side. I cannot imagine life without that dear lady beside me.

You are an inspiration. Thank you SO MUCH for posting here.

SimplyAmorous · 02-01-2012, 07:03 PM

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Shy_guy said : You brought up another beautiful point in your original post and that is about watching yourself, or your partner age, and realizing what that ultimately means. From the earliest years in our marriage, my wife and I always told each other that we wanted to die together. I don't want to be without her. It's such a profoundly sad thing to even consider. When I consider it seriously, I sympathize with her over the fact that women usually outlive men. No guarantees, though, so how can we know? I'll lovingly plan like she'll outlive me, but in honoring her wishes, I'll hope and pray that we go together. Now that we recognize that the halfway point is most likely in our rearview mirror, and having seen some of our friends already depart, these realities sometimes become very cruel, but it is reality.

I don't pop over here & keep up with the wisdom of ThreeTimesAlady enough (shame on me), caught this post, near made me tear up.... We feel the same, always saying we want to go together. This is the reality of growing older, though I just can't bring myself to "like it"......If I could stop time right now, borrow it somehow, I would do near anything....maybe sell my soul to the devil for it. I guess this is part of my Mid life Crisis or something ....I need to work through it...cause time ain't stopping for me.

In my younger years -I put alot of mental energy (Planning, saving, doing & worrying) into acheiving all of our shared dreams, sure we had great times along the way -so many priceless memories, but still - my mind was a flury of activity ---"acheving this goal", then onto "that goal... Looking back...I feel I was missing some of the view climbing this mountain of life , smelling the flowers along the way with my husband... my mind was "in the future"...often set on that "tomorrow".......

..... Tomorrow is here....it is our NOW.....I find in Midlife we are on top of that mountain we worked so hard to climb, it IS breathtaking up here, we have accomplished every dream we set out to do in this life, its been a great climb for the most part -but it went so damn fast ....too fast.

..... I have it in my head that everything after this is 'downward" somehow, it is time to watch our childen start their climb .... I need to break myself of this mentality , I still find myself worrying about tomorrow', mainly our health, how I will handle if something happens to one of us.

I've managed to change my mindset on Sex completely , it has all been very good....now I need somehow to change my mindset on "aging"- to embrace it with Joy, confidence, enthusiam - not dread ...with one step closer to the grave. I can be so morbid at times, if I don't catch myself.

But yes, ThreeTimesALady, your story of re igniting passion and keeping it aflame is most inspiring to someone like myself (I know I have told you a few times now!)....keep the wisdom a burning.

shy_guy · 02-05-2012, 11:26 PM

Caroline, I saw the earlier message you posted, and I really appreciate it. I also understand what you said about deleting posts sometimes. All I can say is that there is no pressure on you, but when you find someone who doesn't like the way you post, just remember: Even Mozart had critics.

I am very much enjoying what you are posting, and looking forward to your answers on the other threads and questions you mentioned should you decide you want to post them. If you think you will be embarassed, then I would still like very much to see them, so you can PM them to me, and I will read them with a great deal of interest.

shy_guy · 02-06-2012, 06:29 PM

I hope you don't really go, Caroline. I obviously can't speak for anyone else, but at least one person here likes that you are here.

I come here and read. I am about halfway through the second page. I am new here, but I understand that the "Likes" are very new here. There was no ability to add a "LIKE" until very recently. From what I see, not many people have them, and nobody I've yet seen has more than 8, but that number is climbing. I have probably been a little lax on giving them, but it seemed to me that since the number was so low, maybe it was something I should be a bit reserved on. That's the explanation.

When I first came here, I did as I said. I read your first post, then your last post. That's all the time I had at that time. The style was exactly the same, so I first replied to CarolineMRF as I was looking at that page at the moment. However; I noticed the name on the last page and changed it. Then, I started thinking the style was the same right down to the use of elipsis, so it must be the same person. At that point, I wasn't sure which name to use. I thought based on how you seemed to be bashful in some posts that maybe you posted, then became embarassed and left, then came back under another name. However; I just couldn't be sure - I can misinterpret internal evidence, and didn't know just yet why you had taken a new name, so I used both names in my reply.

The part I was enjoying was how you were uninhibited in telling it like you saw it, and I have loved reading what I have gotten the chance to read thus far. Those who have been here before and read it before may not come back to give a like to what they have already read, though.

I realize it is up to you whether you come back or not, but I hope you will. I'll catch up soon and have all of what you have done thus far read. I'll be more thoughtful in giving a "like" as I read when I like what you have written.

SimplyAmorous · 02-07-2012, 01:22 AM

ThreeTimesALady... Your thread is very very popular here, it has over 11,400 views! Very few threads have that many views, those LIKE and SHARE options are very very new, maybe less than 2 weeks ago even.

Now you are not going to disappoint your "followers" are you, those you have inspired who look forward to reading your wisdom!

2sick · 02-10-2012, 09:25 AM

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I wrote this about two or three years ago when I had my site....I did change the ages to our ages now...I have not had time to check it over, but it pretty well says it all...I may have to come back tomorrow and edit, but I don't plan to......

Sometime I wonder if "inhibited" is a sickness that some women are born with, or possibly one that we acquire after we are married.... From reading some of the posts from both husbands as well as partners, this does seem to be a very catchy disease....Personally, I know of no better way to show my meaning of the word "inhibited" other than to go to my own self and story of my life.... This is not easy, but true.... Looking back on life, I sure was not like this in the parked car or stolen places of passion before we were married..... Lord, we would let him explore my sexual parts and made love until the cows came home..... Never did I hesitate when he stuck his finger or tongue anywhere in my *****... As most women, I just hoped and prayed that he would find a new spot to lick each time.....It seemed that every new place that he was finding was a new joy in sending me to heaven.....Yet thinking back, I was already at that place in life where I was showing a flaw in my sexual self.....You see I lived on a one-way street......It was called Selfish Street....Living on this street I didn't want to explore his sexual parts....Yet, I would let him do mine....Thinking back, I was a taker and not a giver.... I doubt that I truly realized what was involved in the sexual life of a man and a woman...... I had so much to learn and a Mother that had helped me acquire this distaste for the human male sexual organ that was called a penis.....Yet, I can't blame everything on her.... I had a mind of my own, yet it took me years to get over her words of life... Only thinking back on this now, can I face the fact that I was one of the most inhibited woman in the world as far as making love to my husband's penis... I accepted all he gave me in pleasure, but was a disaster as far as pleasuring him.....What I am speaking about didn't go on for days, instead it went on for years....Yet our marriage survived and we adored each other...In all honesty, I, like many other women, did not know any better...To this day, he is the most wonderful lover in the world.... He always thinks of me first....So many times I wish that I had my yesterday's to live over, but they are gone.... Maybe that's why I strive to pleasure him when we make love....As you may guess, he is now the most loved and pleasured man in the world.....I am now wise in the ways of love.....It's just too bad that it took me a good deal of my life to learn this.....My hope is that other women learn from my mistakes....This is the purpose of the post....

When we first got married he may have wondered if he had married a nun...I froze up.... I was so bad that I didn't know what to call our sexual parts....... My husband tried the regular words that he knew of **** and ***** and I had a fit.... I was furious.... I could not say those words and had no intention of even listening to them...(Lord, have I come a long way).... Not in my bedroom..... I was not that kind of girl..... What I now say sounds pretty ridiculous, but true....For a while I made him call them the "doctor and the nurse"....I swear this on his life...I hate to even write this, but it is the truth.... Have I changed or have I changed?..... I can't remember when I actually came out of that place in life....I know I did as I am somewhat sane now, but I do know that for a while he didn't know if he was on foot or horseback..... He came very close to going back into the Navy and ending the marriage and I guess I didn't care...Our only salvation was that I got pregnant....All of this was my fault.....I was so terribly ashamed of wanting this hot sex and couldn't find my way out of my mind to admit it.....I was dying from hunger and couldn't open my mouth to say so....Then for him to have a woman that needed covers on when naked in bed during sex made no sense....I had been in a parked car naked and now I wouldn't change in front of him....I could cry for all those wasted years.....Yet, inside of me I was on fire and wanting to say and do everything we used to do.....Even though I had never done it I wanted to suck him....I would lay staring at his beautiful hard tool of love and yet being so stupid that the drop of cum at the end of it would hold me back....Again my Mother's words haunted me......What in the name of God was wrong with me....I just couldn't get past them....Were they her problems or mine?......

For so many years I did not respond like I should have.... I held back..... I struggled to get naked in front of him, yet once he was able to get me in bed I could be a tiger...But the "sometime" in my life still puzzles me.... Why couldn't I break free and be who I wanted to be all the time?.... Once in a while I would let the wild side loose, but too often "she" stayed behind her blinders and kept her mouth shut in love making.....Instead I hungered for the sexual satisfaction that I had known earlier in life and had let disappear.....Oh, we had good sex, but nothing like what it could have been..... I can recall not too many years back when I was changing clothes not wanting him in the room when I was naked..... Why?.... You answer me this...... Inhibited?....That disease that has no cure unless we find it ourselves....Yet, at times when I would go naked, the inner me would let go.....Then morning came and I would again hang my head in shame....

I get letters from women.....This is the biggest problem they have..... How can I be like you and be so sexually free?..... I want to be open and talk dirty and let my inner self out..... How do I do it?.... This haunts women...... Some have a divorce in back of them because they couldn't break free....Giving a man oral sex is often the problem....Now that they are free some are ready for the hottest sexual love possible....Sometimes this puzzles me...Maybe it takes the right person to find yourself sexually...The top of the list would be a patient man who helps and understands the woman in you trying to let herself go..... Maybe she was still growing into the body of that hot sexual woman that she is inside...Remember we women get better with age.... Sexually I will do anything for him, say anything to him and it has made us the hotter than you can imagine....My one thing that bugs me is that, I, of all people would love to masturbate in front of him..... That is how bold I have become..... But he doesn't want me to do this...... He wants to be my only lover and pleasure me.... Nothing artificial..... Only him....So I sneak it when he is not around...Oh, and his name is Eric...He is my Eroscillator.......

Sometimes I don't know who I am.... This sexual woman who dares to do anything she wants to do with her lover...... This proud woman who stands tall and goes behind a computer and voice's her words to the world..... Or am I just a woman so lost in lust for a man that I cannot control my passion and must put it into words?..... Words that must come out or I will burst from the love that fills my heart and soul for him.... Am I am oddity of nature?...... Have I found within me, a place where I have been able to shed my inner self and break free to be the animal in heat that God created me to be?...... Or am I just a discovery of the Internet that has found a piece of paper to write on and a heart that swells so full of love that I cannot be silenced?.....God help me, I guess, this is who I am....

How do we shed that layer that covers our inner self?.... How do we break it down so that all the love parts come alive that we have kept so well hidden?...... It starts in our mind and this is where we have to release them and open that door of passion..... Maybe some dirty words or a little more skin showing....Or a light on in a bedroom at mating time as we learn to do great oral sex....What about no underwear to tempt him or going to bed naked....Or flirting with him and letting him pork us as we lean over the patio in the dark... There are just so many ways of making love..... But most of all remember your yesterdays.... Those hot yesterday when you were young...... Find it and hold it close....Remember the two people so in love that started out together....Once you have discovered those precious days of wine and roses, don't let them get lost again.....This is my secret to our hot love....

I have aged as he has aged.. Next month he will be 76 and I am his child bride will shortly after his birthday be 75......He is still a stud...Not as often, but at least once a week...He needs no help...I need an extra fingering...That FE is a kick....We are wild and passionately in love with a passion that borders on the most sensual and erotic behavior I believe is humanly possible......To this day we are still filled with the deepest lust for each other and always will be.... But oh, how I regret those wasted years of long ago that I so well remember.... I can't change my yesterday..... Don't make my same mistake.... Peace to all......Take care, Caroline

Although I don't post on your threads, I do truly enjoy reading them! So, like shy guy and simplyA (who I also adore

) I find your words of wisdom just that!!!! Marriage is a struggle (albeit a worth while one) and it is thoroughly encouraging to read about one that has survived for as long as yours has (no jab on age intended)

!!! So hopefully you are merely venting and will continue to share!!! <3

SimplyAmorous · 02-14-2012, 02:20 AM

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I believe that religion and sexuality do not belong in the same sentence...There is a right and there is a wrong...I remember when my husband-to-be and I (He turned my religion in service) and I went to pre-marriage instructions with the priest and the priest told us that when we have sexual intercourse that we were then in a state of grace and should offer it up to God that we both were shocked...This was not how we viewed our marriage

Thank you so Much ThreeTimesALady for what you did take the time to write & yes, you can leave my original post on there.... I only deleted thinking it wasn't a subject you wanted to venture, so I figured I would take it off. But you did answer, appreciate that.

So I see between your Mom's influence (her dirtiness comments, witnessing a bad marraige) & some religious teachings also that wasn't so favorable , this likely contributed to some of your inhibitions, I just kinda figured so. Back then, sex was really Taboo, much more so than today. Religion and sex in the same sentence... funny you say that, it can be a difficulty ! Similar to what the Priest told you, in one of our Church's marraige classes....the couple teaching told everyone they pray before having sex....the lady telling me the story said "darn, if they could only hear us in the bedroom!"...she thought that was a little crazy.... I can bet whose sex life is hotter.

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Maybe some church teachings, but some of them like intercourse before marriage, I would still stick too....I will never know how I would have acted if a guy like my husband came along and turned me on.....Only did some light petting after high school....I was not a prude, but I had my rules and they were kept

I felt the same, intercourse for marriage. That was my strict boundary.... I see that as the becoming "one" the "fusion" of the "sacred"... what can bring forth a new life. ...... everything else though, I was not as strict...many of the religious would judge that (don't I know it- even asking questions gets me kicked off of Christian forums- ha ha)....

I even judged it myself back then....but it was only because of what I was taught...because in my conscience, we felt good about what we enjoyed together and still had something to wait for our wedding day. I would never take those memories back. To even ask for forgiveness for that, would be to lie.

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This post I did earlier and took it off....I shouldn't have, but sometimes fear gets to me and I run for cover...this is what I wrote....Not what people may want to hear, but I have got to be me

Yes.... you have got to be YOU, your unique self in all things!

Never change that. Nothing wrong with admitting some insecurities even.....we all have them ....knowing that should make you feel better...yes, and even the young! I watch the Bachelor (can't help it -all that drama with women entertains me somehow) .... that model Courtney.... she has to be the most insecure woman I have ever seen on TV, she comes off as terribly stuck up, even mental it is so severe ...it is so obvious she is drowning in insecurties.... anyone who can't admit their faults, a little hurt, a few fears once in a while, & has to put others down to lift themselves up (like she does)...they are hiding...they are not even "themselves"...

It is good to be humble once in awhile, admit a fear or two, sometimes when I post on here I feel "naked" -then run back & delete thinking someone is either going to think I am "too loose" or "half crazy" ....cause I tend to let it ALL hang out. But then again ....it IS these same things that makes us "relatable" to others. So what can you do ! It's human ya know. I don't think anyone here is going to look down on you for that - surely not me !

But as you always do, get yourself back up , keep posting, realize the beauty in "Being you".... being "Real".

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If I was to be allowed to talk to my Grandchildren about my views on life it would be to enjoy every minute of youth...Date, but don't let a guy (my granddaughter) think he owns you....Delve out your treasures carefully....There is nothing wrong with caresses on the outside of your sweater....The same goes for your vaginal area...This is your hot spot so guard it well....Only let a guy go further if you think you really love him...Guys talk...Guys brag....Many are here for a quest...Then I would tell her just because a boy pleads to give you anal, don't allow this...It's a macho thing...I have watched them brag about it...I would tell her to wait until she is old enough to study the possibly effect of this penetration....I would tell her that one boy bragged about it as he liked to see the pain he inflicted....With my new knowledge of life I would be remiss if I did not warn her of prolapse from this sexual act...She is young and not aware of the perils of this act...I would tell her to guard her body well...I would then tell her that when that special man does come along and she trusts that this could be serious to let this wonderful enjoyment called the passion of sex take hold...To do all the wonderful things that her Grandfather and I did...To find each other and learn to want...To try and wait, like I did, for that special act of love, called sexual intercourse for marriage.

I love what you say here, resonates with my feelings as well. So very similar to my own thoughts about what I will teach my own daughter someday , I poured my heart into this , I find these things so very very important...I also want her to see her body as a "treasure"... love that.

********************************** What I will Teach my Daughter about SEX...in relation to LOVE, her emotions, her life **********************

suesmith · 03-05-2012, 10:02 PM

I just have to say that I love that you share your wisdom and experience with us, life, love, sensuality and sexuality.

Its a joy to see you share from your life to benefit the rest of us. Such freedom and unselfishness is very special. And this lady appreciates you a lot

:hug:

dmdream · 03-08-2012, 04:13 PM

I am not sure I believe in things like that anymore. Please, help me change my mind. What percentage of people you know entered their dream marriage?