I once said to my husband if you would just pick up your socks, stop smoking and stop stealing the pillows, you would be the perfect husband. He looked at me, smiled and said, "Perfect would be so boring".
So I will take all the little imperfections and be happy. I would hate to have a boring husband or marriage.
I think when we think Perfect
... we think less "edgy"... less things to laugh about , make fun of... that sort of thing...
I enjoy watching the Hallmark Channel.. always a love story.. it's always 2 HOT looking singles - no dysfunctions meeting up sometime in late 20's to mid life.. with some fairy tale story..I've been saying the last few movies ...how I ENJOY them.. but jeez...talk about how it just doesn't
work out that "perfectly" in real life.. a lot more scars , bruises, less hotness, did I mention "baggage" gets brought in.. unloaded..
I have a theory that.. none of us are perfectly "balanced"...at least not in every department.. ya know.. emotionally, Alpha / beta traits, there are clean freaks & those who'd be content living in a garbage can, from the super friendly to the recluse personality, etc etc..... which gives us plenty of quirks (not to mention annoyances) !...but it also gives us our passionate people, that could border on the obsessive.. but some of those are genius even!
For instance.. I THINK TOO MUCH....it causes me to Worry more than I should, I over-analyze..... (that's a minus) but there is a plus side...I am an meticulous planner/ organizer..rarely do I forget something, I'm never late, I got it covered...it keeps the chaos down...
Husband.. one of my gripes is...he could talk a little more & be more assertive in the bedroom.. (his minuses) but when it comes to affection/ a feeling of romance...he'd be tipping the scales...so somehow it overrides the minuses for me, when you take in the whole package....
With his quiet nature...so long as he engages with me, he wants to BE THERE...I don't mind being the conversation starter ...after all.. that comes EASY for me.
I like this post. I have read it over quite a few times. It made me think of my marriage and all the things I have to be thankful for. Even, if at times there are bumps in the road and I get the smaller portion of the bed. I am over all happy and grateful for my blessings.
You are sleeping together.. there's a plus !
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I have really learned a lot from the various articles and topics you have brought up SA. Makes me think. Glad you are doing it.
Enjoy your holiday, you crazy wacky people
....there have been many "almost" threads ...had them half written out... then got side tracked, never finished...
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